We are not going to try to discourage you from making self-destructive choices, repeating self-destructive patterns or engaging in self-destructive relationships Dear One.

This is your life and you are free to make any old choice that pleases you.

But what we are going to do is try and help you to become more aware of the fact that you are doing so.

We want you to think about/be aware of every single choice that you make.  We want you to make each choice purposefully, deliberately and consciously with the intention of allowing/experiencing greater joy in your life.

If you are making choices that are harming you, we would like for you to be fully aware of the fact that you are doing so.

This is your life Dear One and you are free to make any old choice that pleases you.

If the choices that you are making are not pleasing you, then we are going to encourage you to start making different choices.