You are feeling a strong desire for change, Dear One; how you look, how you feel, what you do, how you live, what you have, who you love, who loves you, and so on.

And you are uncomfortable with it. You are unsure of how exactly you want to change, and what exactly you want to change into, and how you are going to make all of this change happen. And you want to make the discomfort stop.

But to relieve the stress, the unease that accompanies not knowing, the frustration that comes with not having, the self-loathing that comes with feeling unworthy or undeserving or unprepared, the answer is not to stop wanting, to stop trying, to stop moving forward in an effort to avoid confronting the distress.

The answer is in fact, to do the exact opposite of that.  The answer is to embrace the change, and embrace the lack of clarity, discomfort, uncertainty, and insecurity that comes with it.

Because stopping, turning back, giving up, or running away is never going to get you to where you want to go.  But moving forward just might.

And the truth is that both directions, forwards and back, hold the potential for discomfort, equally.  It is unavoidable, nearly impossible to escape the feeling all together.

So the question that you really want to be asking, when it comes to dealing with the discomfort of change, Dear One, is not, How can you avoid it or make it stop, but….  Do you want to confront, deal with, and work through the discomfort while you are moving forwards, backwards, or standing still?

Are you happy, Dear One?

• If yes, great! Enjoy it!
• If no, then do something about it.

But know that if your answer is no, that resenting it, regretting it, fearing it, hating it, feeling badly about it, raging against it, complaining about it, blaming yourself for it (or anyone else for that matter), is not going to do anything useful to improve the situation in any positive way.

So if that is what you have been trying up until this point, you should know that it might be time for you to try something else.

Why struggle, when you can allow, Dear One?

Why pretend when you can be truthful?

Why fight when you can accomplish so much more by connecting?

Why be hard on yourself, when you can choose to be loving, caring, nurturing, and supportive of yourself instead?

You can’t stop all hurts from ever reaching you Dear One, but you can stop making them worse for yourself when they do.

Your choices, your decisions, your actions in the present moment are creating your future, Dear One.

In what direction do you want to go with your life?  What future are you trying to create for yourself?

• Is it one filled with work that frustrates you?
• Is it one filled with insecurity and uncertainly in your relationships?
• Is it one filled with anger, lack and fear?
• Is it one filled with balance and awareness?
• Is it one filled with health and stamina?
• Is it one filled with joy, meaning, contentment, and happiness?

It is your happiness on the line.  It is your body.  It is your time.

Choose wisely, Dear One.  Your future depends on it.

That which is for your greatest good today, Dear One, is for you to remember this one simple truth: You are the creator.

Now just let that sink in.

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Fear, insecurity, uncertainty, a lack of confidence, opportunity, encouragement, support, or finances are all just excuses, Dear One, and they are not good enough reasons not to try.

None of them has the ability to actually stop you.

Only you can do that.

What else have you got?

Take notice of the hands that you are holding onto, Dear One, the connections that you choose to maintain.

Are they helping you up or holding you down?  Are they pulling you back or encouraging you forward?  Are they leading you in the direction that best serves you or in the direction that best serves them?

If you are not sure, Dear One, let go for a moment or two (or three or four if you need to) and find out.

It’s important that you know.

Whether or not to love someone is not a decision that can be made logically, Dear one. So stop trying so hard to try to “figure it out”.  Because you won’t, you can’t.  Love is not a decision to be made.  Love is a feeling, a force, an experience that you allow, that you share, that you enjoy.

Either you love / allow love to flow through you and to you, or you don’t.

You allow love, Dear One.  You don’t choose it.

Either they inspire the feeling, the allowing of it in you, or they do not.

The only decision to be made when it comes to love, Dear One is whether or not you are brave enough, open enough, moved enough,  desiring a connection enough, to allow it, to experience it, to surrender yourself to it, when inspiration should strike.

You can’t punish yourself for making a mistake, misjudgment, or misstep, Dear One, and come back into alignment, return to your flow, make it right again, at the same time.

You’re going to have to choose, one or the other.

You’re going to have to decide which is more important to you; returning to well-being and restoring balance, or remaining self-critical.

What’s it going to be?

Your expectations are a moving target, Dear One.

They can shift as frequently as your needs….. as your moods.

• When you need more – you expect more.
• When you need less – you tend to expect less, and be much more forgiving.

Expectations change – often.  So be careful not to put too much emphasis or importance on having them met.

Eliminate them all together, and you will be eliminating one of the greatest sources of disappointment from your life.