Start by asking yourself this first, Dear One:
Do you really need help, or do you simply need to remember just how strong, capable, resilient, and powerful you are?
The reason we are asking is to help you figure out if this is going to be an outside job or an inside job.
It will be much easier for you to find the help you are looking for if you know where it is that you need to begin your search.
It’s all you, Dear One, not them.
So why not decide that starting today that you are only going to choose the supportive ones, the positive ones, the loving ones, the confident ones, the compassionate, forgiving, and inspired ones that make you feel good instead?
Fear exists nowhere, Dear One, except within your mind.
The truth is that yes, it does, if you decide that it does.
So, you don’t know the answer. Now what?
Relish in the fact that you don’t know the answer, Dear One.
Because it is actually a really good thing.
It means that you are not acting from a place of habit, that you are awake and that your decision will not being controlled by an automatic habitual behavior or pattern.
And this is a very good thing, A great thing actually.
Not having the answer is good.
Not know what to do next is good.
Next time this happens to you Dear One, try not to sweat it, and try not to “think” about what the answer should be. Try not to turn back to your logical brain to see what habit dictates the answer should be.
Allow yourself to “feel” for the answer instead.
Allow your feelings, your heart, your intuition to guide you instead.
And TRUST that there is a very good reason that your logical, habitual brain did not automatically reply, and is asking you to look elsewhere for the answer, is giving you the opportunity to give your heart a chance to speak up and be heard.
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Do you want to know the best way to get past a bad feeling as quickly as you can possibly can?
Getting mad at it won’t work either.
If you want to get past a bad feeling, Dear One, let it come.
And then once it does, let it go again.
The sooner that you do, the sooner you can move on without it.
Make the decision in your heart first, commit to taking action on its behalf, and then watch as the universe yields to it.
Contrary to how it might feel at times, you should know that it is you, Dear One, your heart, your beliefs, thoughts, words, and actions that are commanding the powers of universe, and not the other way around.
Discipline is a mindset, Dear One, an attitude, an approach, a guide, a commitment.
It is not a contract, a commandment, an order, a doctrine, or a law that must be followed.
Discipline is flexible, malleable, adaptable, and strong.
It is not hard, rigid, tough, and unforgiving.
Discipline is the boat on the water, Dear One, not the rope tethering you to the dock.
It is the compass pointing your way, not the points plotted out on a map
It is the sail, and not the anchor.
Practicing discipline should strengthen you, empower you, guide you, help you to feel stronger, freer, more connected and in-synch with the world around you. Not frustrate you, weaken you, and leave you feeling depleted and restricted.
If what you are practicing is not not serving you in all of these positive ways, Dear One, there is a very good chance that what you are practicing is not discipline at all, but that you are just being hard on yourself, and that is not the same thing.
The trouble, Dear One is that you think that you live in a world of absolutes. And you don’t. The world does not work that way. There are no absolutes in life – except one.
The one thing that you can always absolutely rely on is the fact that you will always have a choice. Always, always, always do you have options, in every single situation. Every one – without fail.
Whenever you feel frustrated, helpless, trapped or as if you are moving in the wrong direction – stop and remind yourself that there are choices available to you in that moment. If the thoughts that you are thinking are not bringing you joy – choose different ones. If the company that you are keeping is not pleasurable for you – change it. If you have set standards for yourself that you consistently find yourself falling short of, and feeling badly about, change them.
It can be that simple, Dear One, if you choose to allow it to be.
Friend, boyfriend, lover, wife, spouse, partner, neighbor, sister, brother, cousin, best friend, confidant, significant other, soul mate, buddy, companion, associate, cohort or chum.
You have lots of ways of defining, categorizing and labeling your relationships, Dear One. And we realize that these measures can be greatly varied, intricately complicated, highly emotional, and hold a great deal of significance for you. We know that they strongly influence and in some cases totally determine how you act towards someone, how you think, feel and react around them, and your expectations of them. We get it. We really do understand.
But from where we are standing there truly is only one measure by which all relationships are defined, categorized and labeled — and that measure is the amount of love shared.
As we see it, how you choose to define a relationship is so much less significant than the amount of love that you choose to bring to it and allow yourself to experience within it.
So, what is in a name, Dear One?
As far as we are concerned, as long as there is love there, not a whole hell of a lot.
Know that there is no greater risk that you can take, Dear One, than not following your heart.