Do you ever wonder how it is exactly that you came to have such a low opinion of yourself when it comes to…… (you fill in the blank)

• Your appearance
• Your intelligence
• Your creative abilities
• Your potential
• Your contributions
• The value of your opinions
• Your accomplishments and achievements

It is because Dear One, at some point in time you decided that your worth or value was determined by the look that you saw in someone else’s eyes or the words spoken from someone else’s lips.

You somehow came to believe that the truth of things was determined not by you, but by those around you.  And you decided to give more weight to their criticism than to your own praise.

There is a quick remedy to that Dear One.

Stop looking in their eyes to determine your worth.  Stop listening to their words to hear your value.

Know that you are divine spirit who’s appearance, intelligence, creative abilities, potential, contributions, opinions, accomplishments and achievements are beautiful, valuable and worthy of praise.

It is not a matter of opinion Dear One, it is a fact – if you believe it.

Now, all you have to do, is believe it.

It is a glorious thing Dear One to walk in your own shoes, along your own path, that you have laid out for yourself.  There is nothing else like it – that feeling of being right where you want to be.  It is the perfect fit – It is coming home.

Experience has taught you that when you trust yourself and rely on your own inner guidance, intuition, wisdom and hunches to lead you, that you travel in a direction that is conducive to achieving your goals, desires, wishes.   Experience has also taught you that when you ignore your own instincts and blindly follow the advice, guidance and direction of others, regardless of what your heart is telling you, that you end up moving away from those things that you truly want most for yourself.

Chin up — it won’t always be a struggle for you to trust yourself, to know which way your heart is leading you.  With time, patience and practice, practice, practice, you will learn and before you know it, the sound of your own heart will be the loudest one in your head.

When you trust yourself Dear One, enough to always let your own heart have the final say before you take action, you will come to know first hand what it means when someone says home is right where you are, home is where the heart is.

Trust yourself Dear One and you will be home.

It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks or says or does Dear One.

All that matters is that you think and speak and act in a way that you believe is true to your own self.

It is not a choice weather or not you have conflict in your life Dear One.  It is most certainly an experience that will arise from time to time.

But most often it is not the conflict itself that is the source of you pain, discomfort, anger, frustration, racing heart or sweaty palms.  It is your response to it.  And the response that you choose impacts your flow of energy and as a result the quality of the solutions that will present themselves to you/that you will take notice of.

Don’t dig in, tense up or pinch yourself off from your source of well-being in fear, anger or self righteousness when dealing with conflict.  Relax, be gentle, go with the flow and allow your energy to rise as you seek a resolution.

Choose your response consciously Dear One.  When you do, you just might be surprised to discover the source of your conflict dissipating quickly and the circumstances surrounding it rising up to meet you.

You can spend your whole life following the rules invented by others for themselves Dear One, or you can do what you are meant to be doing – which is writing your own rules.

Which feels like a better fit for you today, their rules or yours?

• The color of your eyes
• The shape of your nose
• The length of your hair
• The curve of your hips
• The label on your jeans
• The make of your car
• The size of your paycheck

The notice of these things can be an opportunity for judgment or an opportunity for gratitude.

Hold yourself up against nothing and no one and judgment becomes impossible Dear One .

Take notice.  And choose gratitude.

There is nothing wrong with you Dear One.  You are not broken.  You don’t need to be fixed.

You are simply not making the choices that bring you the greatest amount of joy, laughter, health, comfort, balance, peace, contentment, connection.

You know what they are.

You know how you feel when you choose them.

You know what to do.

In this moment, never mind what you should be doing or could be doing Dear One.  Never mind what they need from you or what they want from you.  Never mind what their expectations are.  Let them go.

In this moment all that really matters is you – what you think of you – what you want from you – what you expect from you – what you want this day to be.

When was the last time that you allowed the sound of your own voice, your own heart, your own wants, your own needs to lead you – regardless of the needs, wants and expectations of those around you?

In this moment, ignore them Dear one.  Ignore all of them and listen only to yourself, to you own inner voice.  Pay close to the details of what it has to say to you – because your own heart holds much wisdom for you.  It holds much love and compassion and forgiveness for you too.

In this moment, allow yourself to connect with that wisdom.

And in the next, allow yourself to follow it.

Struggling against what is, working harder, suffering through, will never serve you in a greater capacity towards reaching your goals then getting happy will Dear One.

One small action taken in joy is infinitely more powerful than 100 taken in anger, frustration, fear, resentment, sadness or uncertainty.

Get happy and then get to work – not the other way around, if you can help it.

We assure you that the time spent on yourself first will be well worth the effort.

Life can be a harrowing experience if you let it be Dear One.

And it can be one of pure joy and bliss if you let…it…be.

As always, the choice is yours.