Guilt serves to accomplish only two things Dear One;

• Inflict punishment onto yourself
• Inflict punishment onto another

That’s it.  Nothing more.

Guilt does not absolve you of anything.

It solves nothing. It heals nothing. It changes nothing.

When it comes to dealing with feelings of guilt Dear One, you really have only two choices;

• Forgive yourself
• Don’t forgive yourself

While you are deciding which is the right choice for you, keep this in mind – you will never be able to punish yourself, or anyone else enough to undo that which has been done, – and with forgiveness, all things are possible.

We think that it’s time you started holding yourself more accountable for your actions Dear One.

Celebrate your victories.  Acknowledge your accomplishments.  Praise your successes.  Honor your abilities.  Each and every one of them, big and small, everyday.

When you don’t, when you dismiss them, belittle them, or simply gloss right over them and immediately shift your attention instead to that which remains undone, to that which you have not yet achieved, not yet completed, or not yet mastered, you are doing yourself a great disservice.  Not only are you cheating yourself out of a wonderful experience, but you are tossing aside a potentially life changing moment.

Stop doing that.

One good feeling is all it takes to turn anything around.

Celebrate, acknowledge, praise and honor your accomplishments today Dear One.  It is the surest thing that you can do for yourself to guarantee that there will be more of them tomorrow.

Are you winning Dear One or are you losing?

You’re the only one that knows for sure, because no one else is playing but you.

Never try to change who you are Dear One.  Never try to be something or someone that you are not.

You are divine, brilliant, beautiful, full of possibility, capable of anything, just as you are.  Within you is the power to create worlds.

Feel free to change your circumstances, your surroundings, your feelings, your attitude, your mood, the company that you keep, the choices that you make, for the better, to something more pleasing to you, anytime you’d like!

But don’t try to change who you are Dear One.  Never change that.  You are the only one of you that there is and the world needs you, just as you are.

You have gotten used to too much of everything Dear One.

Too much stress, too much sadness, too much work, too much anger, too much fear, too much uncertainty, too much information, too much heartache, too much confusion.

You have gotten so accustomed to too much, that by comparison, anything less feels like not enough.

You have left little room for yourself to just be – with your thoughts, with your relationships, with your work, with your finances, with you, just as you are.

You’ve created a reality where you feel badly when you’ve got what you think
you want, which is too much, and you feel badly when you have anything less
than that.

Too much of anything is not good for you Dear One.  Too much of everything is worse. It is not at all surprising to us that you would feel poorly, overwhelmed, stress out, physically ill even, when that’s just what you’ve got, when that is what you are creating for yourself, when that is what you have become accustomed to.

It is completely understandable that in this state, there are days that you want to quit, give up, resign.

BUT, what if instead of burning out, giving up, or quitting Dear One  – you change instead?

You know what is right for you Dear One, what will best serve you – as well as you know what is right, what will best serve the whole, all that is.

You know this because they are one in the same.

If you want to help them grieve Dear One:

• Ask them what happened
• Ask them how they are doing
• Ask them how they are feeling

If you want to help them heal:

• Ask them to tell you about the one that they lost
• Ask them to tell you what they love most about them
• Ask them to tell you how they made them laugh
• Ask them to tell you how they made them feel
• Help them to remember, and re-connect, with love not loss