When you find something that you love Dear One, something that allows you to open up to an experience of love, you don’t have to question it, try to understand it, analyze it, doubt it, begin wondering if it is “real”, or how long it will last.

You are allowed to simply enjoy it, without understanding why.

Really, you are.

Don’t you dare start this day off with regret Dear One.

Living is choosing.

If you don’t like/feel good about the choices that you made yesterday, don’t regret them, learn from them and choose differently today.

No matter how badly you feel, no matter how badly you made them feel, no matter how much you punish yourself, or those around you, regret will not solve, fix, change or improve anything for the better Dear One.

It never has and it never will.

Regret won’t help you or them to forget, forgive, connect, improve, repair, restore, heal or move on.

But forgiveness will – hope will – courage will – faith will – strength, love, kindness, and compassion will.

If you want to make it right Dear One, regret is not the answer you are looking for.

Make a different choice.

Mistakes can be corrected, apologies can be made, wounds can heal, forgiveness can be granted, minds can change, but today can never be relived Dear One.

We are not encouraging you to live it carelessly.

We are encouraging you to live it fully.

You have been blessed with a great many gifts Dear One.

We implore you to please remember to use them.

They serve a far greater purpose than you might be aware of.

If you are not yet sure what yours gifts may be, we would be happy to help you to figure it out.

You can do so by answering these questions:

• What it is that you do, that you can do, that brings you joy and connects you with others?
• What is it that you do, that you can do that brings others joy and an opportunity to connect, with you, with themselves, with each other, with their community, with their bodies, with their spirits, with their passions, with their emotions, with the natural world, etc..?

When you figure out your answers, you will have discovered what your gifts are.

A gift Dear One is anything that you are able to do that creates joy and encourages connection in your world.

Your gifts Dear One, are the channel through which joy and connection are created.

Without them, without you, countless joys and connects would never exist.

You are the creator of joy, of connection in this world Dear One, and your gifts are the tools of the trade.

So we will say to you once again:

You have been blessed with a great many gifts Dear One.

We implore you to please remember to use them.

You don’t have to fight the brewing storm Dear One, or fear it, run from it or hide from it.

There is another option you know.

You can simply allow it to come, and trust yourself enough to know that you can handle it, whatever it may be.

Truth is, your opinion of it, your feelings about it, your actions towards it, your awareness of it, are all feeding it, are all adding to it, are all attracting it towards you Dear One.

If you are giving your attention to it, you are making a contributing to it.  So we would like for you to choose with great intention what you would like that contribution to be.

You can speed it up or slow it down,  you make can make it stronger and more fierce or kinder and gentler, or you can add levity, compassion, calm and peacefulness or you can add anger, fear, confusion and angst.  You can even turn it around or stop it all together if you should choose.

And before you ask, yes, you are that powerful.

They are not exhausting you Dear One.

You are exhausting yourself trying to please them, choosing to prioritize them and their needs above your own.

They are not to blame.

You are doing this to yourself.

And you can choose to stop doing this to yourself anytime that you would like.

How?

By making choices that please you.

FYI – Doing so is not selfish Dear One, it is necessary.  You are of far greater value, to them, to you, to everyone and everything, when you are pleased then when you are not.

Before you ask for forgiveness Dear One, give it, to yourself.

Forgive yourself, allow yourself to let it go, and show them how it’s done.

You are worthy of great, big, unconditional, uncompromising, all encompassing, forgiving, limitless, boundless, joyful, love Dear One.

And absolutely nothing less.

If you don’t already love yourself this way, we can think of no better time for you to start than right now.

There is nothing that you can or will ever do that will ever make you any more worthy than you are right now.  The simple fact that you exist makes it so.

So, why wait?

Will your happiness today be dependent on what they do, on what they say, on their choices, on their behavior, on their attitude Dear One, or will it be dependent on what you do, on what you say, on your choices, on your behavior, on your attitude?

Happiness is a choice Dear One.

Are you going to put yours in their hands today or take it into your own?

Why focus on feeling badly Dear One, when there are so many other more pleasant, pleasing and enjoyable options available to you?

Just curious.