Whatever it is that is bothering you Dear One, whatever it is that you are struggling with, deal with it/face it/confront it or choose to let it go.

Those are really the only two options available to you that will ever serve you in any positive way.

All others; anger, resentment, denial, rationalization, self pity, self righteousness, and so on,  will only serve to prolong, intensify or increase your suffering.

Don’t try to make your life bigger and better Dear One.

Trust, let go, connect, find any excuse that you can to feel good, and allow it to expand instead.

Doing it this way requires far less effort and will yield you far better results.

Try it and see.!

When you decide that you want to change Dear One, that you want to let go of old patterns, and all (or at least some) of the things in your life that you know just don’t serve you anymore, try not to look at it as if you are making some dramatic decision that you suddenly have to give up something that you love, like, or just have grown accustomed to.

Because we know, just as well as you do, that that can be really, really, really, hard to do.

So instead, trying looking at it from a different perspective –  trying seeing it for what it really is.

And what is that?

Deciding to make an empowered choice to pick something new, something healthy, something powerful that will serve you, heal you, and strengthen you, body, mind, and spirit.

Do that Dear One,  focus on what you will gain from making a change and not on what you will be giving up, and you just might find the whole experience to be far simpler and much more pleasant than you ever imagined it could be.

We watch you struggle day after day in your effort to hold-on Dear One – hold-on to your job, hold-on to your relationships, hold-on to your health, hold-on to your security, hold-on to your control, hold-on to that which you know, understand and trust.

And we ask ourselves why.

Why do you try so hard to hold-on Dear One when you can let go and float, fly, sail along your path instead?

Stop waiting for all of the right answers. Stop waiting to be certain. Stop waiting for road signs to show you the way. Stop waiting for circumstances to force you into action. Stop waiting for someone to agree with you or approve of you, or encourage you before you take a step, make a change or take a risk, to follow your heart. Stop waiting for permission to live your life. Stop wasting your time waiting Dear One.

The time for pretending to be timid, incapable, unworthy or anything less than you really are is long over. It’s your life Dear One. You are meant to be enjoying it. There are no rules to follow. There are no right answers. You can’t get it wrong. The only person you need permission from to start living the life that you want is you.

So, is the wait over?

Do you want to know the secret to changing how you feel Dear One?

We’ll tell you.

Take notice of the thought that are you thinking.

Pay attention to how it is making you feel.

If you don’t like the feeling, change it.

The thought we mean.

Pick one that makes you feel good, or better, or hopeful, or encouraged, or loved, or brave, or inspired instead!

Yes, it really is that simple.

Not easy, but simple.

You can’t stress your way to health Dear One.

And you can’t force your way to insight, contentment, joy, satisfaction, creativity or clarity either.

Doing so will only serve to keep pushing all of these things away.

Just something to keep in mind if you should find yourself struggling  along the way.

Enjoy your day!

Choosing to change can be hard enough Dear One, so if you are going to do it, why not leave the judgment out of it?

What does that mean exactly?

• It means not beating yourself up for wanting, needing or having to change in the first place, for not doing it sooner, perfectly, or as good as, or better than anyone else.
• It means no harsh or negative self-talk while you in the middle of it.
• It means no could have’s, should have’s, or would have’s.
• It means not using someone else’s path, experience, or success as an opportunity to diminish your own.

Think about how much more energy you would have to put into the process, Dear One, that you would  have available to you to dedicate to your work, to yourself, to the changes that you are trying to make, if you left the judgment out.

Trust us.  It’s a lot.

You can’t force change Dear One, upon yourself or anyone else.

You (they) will change only when you (they) are inspired to do so. When you (they) believe that doing so will be to your (their) greatest advantage, to your (their) greatest benefit.

That is why people can and do endure the pain, discomfort and effort that can sometimes accompany change.

Not because they like it, not because they enjoy it, not because it is easy for them, not because they believe that they should or have something to prove.

They do it Dear One, because they know that doing so is going to serve them.

Enduring pain and discomfort on an inspired path to change is an empowering and joyful experience. It builds strength, endurance, and confidence.

Enduring pain and discomfort in the name of change when it is forced upon you, by yourself or by someone else, without a solid belief or knowing that it is for your greatest good, is a depleting experience . It only serves to weaken you, frustrate you, discourage you, and contribute to greater imbalance in your life.

That Dear One, is why you shouldn’t force it.

Forgive yourself Dear One, right now, for whatever it is, without exception.

Why?

Because you can’t beat yourself up and heal, make amends, or move forward in any positive or useful way until you do.

That’s why.