Lighten up Dear One.

It’s okay to not take it all so seriously – whatever it is – even the really, really serious stuff – seriously.

We say this to you not to disrespect, trivialize, dismiss or belittle whatever very difficult, important or challenging situation, circumstance or event you might be dealing with at the moment.

We say this to you to help you to remember that you can choose to face it, deal with it and move past it with ease, grace, joy, confidence and levity just as easily as you can with intensity, struggle, stress, fear and doubt.

But don’t take our word for it.  Lighten up Dear One and find out for yourself.

– Don’t try to paint a picture – just paint.

–  Don’t try to fall in love – just love.

– Don’t try to be creative – just create.

Don’t try so hard Dear One. It really is just not necessary. Yes, effort, even great effort may be required of you in certain circumstances and situations – But it need not be a struggle. Don’t mistake effort for struggle. They are two vastly different things.

Allow. Let go and let your intuition guide you. Trust yourself more than you do, because you hold within you the wisdom of the ages and all of the answers to all of the questions that you could ever possibly ask. But if believing that is too much of a leap for you to take on today, then simply start by respecting the wisdom of you.

Trust yourself Dear One.  Trust your heart.  Always.

We know that sometimes that can be a difficult thing for you to do, especially when you feel as though you have sufficient evidence proving that doing so in the past has gotten you into trouble, has steered you in the wrong direction.

But what if we told you, that it just wasn’t true.  What if we told you that all of those experiences that you have had trusting your heart, the ones that did not work out the way that you wanted them to, the way that you thought they would, had in fact turned out exactly the way that you needed them to.

What if we told you that?

Your heart always, always, always knows Dear One.

Trusting it will always, always, always serve you better than not trusting it ever will.

They are going to see in you Dear One, what they want to see in you, what they are ready to see in you, what they are looking for, what they are ready for, and nothing more.

And there is not a whole lot that you can do about that.

Isn’t that wonderful!

Now that you know that you don’t have to worry so much about trying to make a good first impression, about trying to please them, or impress them, or win them over, you can just be you, and instead put all of your energy into doing what you do best, into doing what brings you the greatest amount of joy, into creating, sharing, and enjoying your life the way that you want to.

Whatever it is that is bothering you Dear One, whatever it is that you are struggling with, deal with it/face it/confront it or choose to let it go.

Those are really the only two options available to you that will ever serve you in any positive way.

All others; anger, resentment, denial, rationalization, self pity, self righteousness, and so on,  will only serve to prolong, intensify or increase your suffering.

Don’t try to make your life bigger and better Dear One.

Trust, let go, connect, find any excuse that you can to feel good, and allow it to expand instead.

Doing it this way requires far less effort and will yield you far better results.

Try it and see.!

When you decide that you want to change Dear One, that you want to let go of old patterns, and all (or at least some) of the things in your life that you know just don’t serve you anymore, try not to look at it as if you are making some dramatic decision that you suddenly have to give up something that you love, like, or just have grown accustomed to.

Because we know, just as well as you do, that that can be really, really, really, hard to do.

So instead, trying looking at it from a different perspective –  trying seeing it for what it really is.

And what is that?

Deciding to make an empowered choice to pick something new, something healthy, something powerful that will serve you, heal you, and strengthen you, body, mind, and spirit.

Do that Dear One,  focus on what you will gain from making a change and not on what you will be giving up, and you just might find the whole experience to be far simpler and much more pleasant than you ever imagined it could be.

We watch you struggle day after day in your effort to hold-on Dear One – hold-on to your job, hold-on to your relationships, hold-on to your health, hold-on to your security, hold-on to your control, hold-on to that which you know, understand and trust.

And we ask ourselves why.

Why do you try so hard to hold-on Dear One when you can let go and float, fly, sail along your path instead?

Stop waiting for all of the right answers. Stop waiting to be certain. Stop waiting for road signs to show you the way. Stop waiting for circumstances to force you into action. Stop waiting for someone to agree with you or approve of you, or encourage you before you take a step, make a change or take a risk, to follow your heart. Stop waiting for permission to live your life. Stop wasting your time waiting Dear One.

The time for pretending to be timid, incapable, unworthy or anything less than you really are is long over. It’s your life Dear One. You are meant to be enjoying it. There are no rules to follow. There are no right answers. You can’t get it wrong. The only person you need permission from to start living the life that you want is you.

So, is the wait over?