Do you want to know how you can know for sure Dear One, in any situation, if the choice you are about to make is the compassionate choice?

We will tell you.

The compassionate choice is always, without exception, the loving choice – loving to yourself and loving to them.

The compassionate choice will never make you choose between one or the other.

So if you are struggling with what to do Dear One, if you are wanting to make the compassionate choice, but you are finding yourself torn between choosing to be loving toward yourself OR loving towards them, then you can know for sure that the choice you are about to make is not the compassionate one, and you should allow yourself the freedom to choose again.

Why are we always encouraging you to look for the best in every situation Dear One?

Because doing so feels so much better than not doing so.

And the better you feel, the better things start to get.

That’s why.

If you want things to be different today Dear One, you’ve got to do things differently.

You can’t always control your feelings Dear One.

But you can always choose to think a different thought and change them anytime you would like.

Some may call this denying what is.

But we would call it, getting yourself into a better feeling place so that you can more effectively deal with what is.

There is no rule anywhere that says that you have to feel badly when dealing with a bad situation.

• What we know that you don’t Dear One, is the extent to which you are capable of healing yourself.

• What we know that you don’t is the infinite beauty, power, strength and resiliency of your soul.

• What we know that you don’t is that you are amazing, powerful, bright, and beautiful, just as you are.

• What we know that you don’t is just how capable, strong, fierce, caring and compassionate you are, have always been, and always will be.

• What we know that you don’t is that there is so much more to you than you have allowed yourself to believe, to experience.

• What we know that you don’t is that everything is going to be ok, that every single thing is going to work out.

• What we know that you don’t know is that only force in the universe capable of stopping you from accomplishing anything is you.

We know the full extent of what you are capable of. We know just how far you can go.  We know just how wonderful your life could be, if you knew what we know Dear One.

And now, you know it too.

• Thank you for being a good friend
• Thank you for loving them as only you can
• Thank you for forgiving, letting go and allowing yourself to heal
• Thank you for taking a risk, being brave, speaking up
• Thank you for telling the truth, revealing yourself, sharing your story
• Thank you for doing something that you have never done before
• Thank you for going somewhere that you have never gone before
• Thank you for using your life to create
• Thank you for every moment that you choose to live with an open heart and an open mind

We are all better off because of it, Dear One.

And we wanted you to know it.

So, thank you.

Friend, boyfriend, lover, wife, spouse, partner, neighbor, sister, brother, cousin, best friend, confidant, significant other, soul mate, buddy, companion, associate, cohort or chum. 

You have lots of ways of defining, categorizing and labeling your relationships Dear One.  And we realize that these measures can be greatly varied, intricately complicated, highly emotional, and hold a great deal of significance for you.   We know that they strongly influence and in some cases totally determine how you act towards someone, how you think, feel and react around them, and your expectations of them.   We get it. We really do understand.

But from where we are standing there truly is only one measure by which all relationships are defined, categorized and labeled — and that measure Dear One, is the amount of love shared.

As we see it, how you choose to define a relationship is so much less significant than the amount of love that you choose to bring to it and allow yourself to experience within it.

So, what is in a name Dear One?

As far as we are concerned, as long as there is love there, not a whole hell of a lot.

The world needs you in the present moment Dear One.

Your friends and love ones need you in the present.

Your physical body needs you in the present.

And we need you in the present – as that will always be our strongest point of connection.

The past is over Dear One.   There is nothing more for you to do there.  There is nothing more you can do there.

Join us here, won’t you?

Do you know what is guiding you Dear One?  Do you know what the desire is that is motivating you to make the choices that you make?

Is it trust, love, a desire to create, connect, to be happy, to be strong, to know joy?

Or is it a desire for security, safety, acceptance, belonging, recognition, attention, or relief?

It is important that you know because before you can change, before you can create more of what it is that you want for yourself, you need to first be aware of what that is.  And know this; figuring out your desires, what it is that you want to create more of in your life is very different than figuring out what is it you want to avoid.

• A desire to avoid heartbreak is not the same as wanting more love in your life.
• A desire for less illness is not the same as wanting better health
• A desire to avoid poverty is not the same as wanting greater wealth
• A desire to feel less lonely is not the same as wanting more companionship
• A desire for less stress is not the same as wanting more time, energy, contentment, or peace of mind
• A desire for less fatigue is not the same as wanting more endurance so you can do, be, have, or accomplish all that you want.

The steps, actions, feelings, and mindset required for you to create one are dramatically different than what is required for you to create the other.

All of the attention in the world focused on a contrasting goal is not ever going to bring you any closer to attaining it, no matter how hard you try, how badly you want it, or how much you think you deserve it.

Now you know, now you aware.

Now what?

It really is okay to not take it all so seriously, Dear One – whatever it is – even the really, big, seriously important, significant, or scary stuff.

We say this to you not to disregard, disrespect, trivialize, dismiss or belittle whatever very difficult, important or challenging situation, circumstance or event you might be dealing with at the moment.

We say this to you to help you to remember that you can choose to approach it, deal with it, and move past it with ease, grace, joy, confidence and maybe even a little bit of levity, just as easily as you can with intensity, struggle, stress, drama, fear, and doubt.