When it comes to love Dear One, forget about trying to change yourself, bend yourself, twist yourself, mold yourself into something that you think will inspire someone else to love you. It would not be a worthy use of your time – and it won’t work.   Trust us.

When it comes to love, what matters most is not someone else’s experience of you– but your experience of you.

You want to be loved? You want to be adored? You want to be cherished?

To you we say – Love yourself – Cherish yourself – Adore yourself.

The experience of these things will be so much sweeter, will have so much more meaning, so much more impact, so much more influence on your life when they come from you then they ever possibly could coming from anyone else. If you don’t feel these things/believe that you are worthy of things from yourself first, how could you possibly embrace them coming from someone else?

If you want more of these things in your life Dear One, give them to yourself.  Give yourself all of the things that you have been waiting, hoping, praying that someone else would give you and watch and see what happens.

Watch and see how quickly it will be before others will be lining up give them to you as well – to share in the experience of you with you.

Imagine if you can for a minute Dear One (longer if possible), things exactly as you want them to be.

Don’t just think about it.  Picture it in your mind.  Feel it in your heart.  Allow yourself to really go there.

• What does it feel like?
• What does it look like?
• What does it sound, smell and taste like?

Are you seeing it? Are you feeling it?  Are you excited about it? Are you enjoying the imagined experience of it?

If so, you have just done more in that one minute (or longer) to bring yourself closer to having it, then all of the efforts you have exerted up until now trying to create it for yourself focused on not having it.