Its time to start enjoying yourself/enjoying life more Dear One, and stop putting so much effort into trying to please those around you, especially at the expense of your own happiness.

Do things that bring you joy, that make you smile, that make you happy, and you will be in a far greater position to please those around you then you would be when you sacrifice your own well being for theirs.

If you are not happy yourself, Dear One, what could you possibly have to offer anyone else that would be of any real value to them anyway?

When you wake up each morning, Dear One, there are infinite possibilities available to you.  And these possibilities diminish only when you choose to dismiss them.  Only when you decide that something is impossible does it become impossible.

The truth is that anything is possible.  It is in large part a matter of belief that allows everything into your reality.

First you must believe, and then you will see.

So, don’t expect miracles to show up in your day if you don’t’ believe in them.  Expect reality, and you won’t be disappointed.  Expecting a miracle can be a very difficult thing to do if you don’t believe.  Expecting reality is much simpler, and much more logical thing to do.

But, if your belief of reality is that anything is possible, well then…..

See what you expect.  Expect more than what you see.  This is the key to creation.

We think that you would agree Dear One, that it would be an absurd thing for you to do to begin each new day by taking actions and making commitments that you knew would end up hurting you, that you knew would end up generating results that you would rather not see come to pass.

Are we right?

And yet, that is exactly what you are doing when you start your day off with negative expectations.

You can’t force change, Dear One, upon yourself or anyone else.

You (they) will change only when you (they) are inspired to do so. When you (they) believe that doing so will be to your (their) greatest advantage, to your (their) greatest benefit.

That is why people can and do endure the pain, discomfort and great effort that can sometimes accompany change.

Not because it doesn’t scare them, not because they enjoy the challenge, not because it is easy for them, not because they believe that they should, or have something to prove.

They do it, Dear One, because they know that doing so is going to serve them.

Enduring pain and discomfort on an inspired path to change is an empowering and joyful experience. It builds strength, endurance, and confidence.

Enduring pain and discomfort in the name of change when it is forced upon you, by yourself or by someone else, without a solid belief or knowing that it is for your greatest good, is a depleting experience . It only serves to weaken you, frustrate you, discourage you, and contribute to greater imbalance in your life.

That, Dear One, is why you shouldn’t force it.

When you choose to ignore your intuition, Dear One, your gut, instincts, hunches or “feelings”, and instead take action based on some other seemingly compelling force in the universe, and things don’t work out, don’t beat yourself up about it.

The truth is that the experience of learning from not doing something can be just as valuable as the experience of learning by doing.

But if you would like to spare yourself from repeated exposure to that particular type of learning experience, pay close attention, remember what it feels like to have to live with the consequences of not trusting yourself, and don’t do it again.

We don’t doubt, Dear One, not even for a second, your ability to do or be or have or create anything that you want, and we never will.

Imagine if you can, how different your life, your relationships, your experiences, your choices would be if you didn’t doubt it either.

Contrary to popular belief (and practice), Dear One, healing does just happen.

Your very vital and active role in the process is to create an environment, both internally and externally, that will allow it to happen.

And if you should need them, the doctors, counselors, teachers, or healer’s role, is to help you to do it.

Taking good care of yourself does not mean pushing yourself to extremes, Dear One, to do all that you want to do, and be all that you want you to be.  And it also does not mean sheltering yourself from challenges, protecting yourself from your fears, giving up, quitting, or walking away when things get tough either.

Taking good care of yourself means always remembering to love yourself enough to choose balance, to choose joy, to choose patience and compassion in every moment, knowing that doing so will not inhibit your progress along your path but will actually hasten it.

You can never undo that which has been done, Dear One.

It’s impossible.

So please don’t waste your precious time and energy trying.

Once you have had an experience, for better or for worse, it is yours forever.

And regardless of how deeply you wish it could be so, no amount of regret, guilt, remorse, anger, self-pity, self-loathing, sadness, or hatred is ever going to change that.

But know this, that you are never without options, that there is always something that you can do.

It is always within your power Dear One, to change the way that you feel about it, to change what it means to you, to change its significance in your life.

And changing that, changes everything.

In your search for balance Dear One, are you:

A:  Aligning yourself with what feels good to you, your passions, your priorities, your needs, your wants, your desires, your vision for your life?

B:  Aligning yourself with what you think is suppose to feel good , with what you think your priorities are supposed to be, with what you think you are supposed to want, need and desire for yourself or with what they want, need or desire for you?

If you are continually finding yourself out of balance, out of alignment Dear One, your answer to this question may help you to understand why.