THEM or ME
How do you decide, Dear One?

To begin with, you start by first recognizing that this is not actually the right question to be asking.

Those are not actually the two options that you are choosing between when you are struggling to figure out which is more important in the moment; taking care of their needs, or taking care of your own.

It is not actually a choice between Them or Me that you are trying to make.

It is a choice between Me or Not Me.

And if you want to know which is the right choice, which choice will always serve THE greatest good, which choice will always serve YOUR greatest good, (which are both always one and the same) we will tell you.

It will always be to choose ME.

Because choosing Not Me can never serve the whole in any positive way.

P.S.
Making this choice has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with being selfish.

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Love is not meant to be tough, Dear One.

Today, just love.

Let that be enough.

That which is for your greatest good today is to proceed gently, remembering to always act mindfully.

Nothing is guaranteed in this life, Dear One.

We wish we could tell you that you are now “out of the woods”, or when exactly you will be “out of the woods”, but we cannot. And that is because the truth is that you are never actually ever going to be “out of the woods”.

But think, act, behave consciously, awake, aware, bringing connection, light, and intention to all that you do, and you will never find yourself lost in a dark woods again.

Remember, Dear One, you bring the light you seek.

You are the light!

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You are meant to know more today than you did yesterday, Dear One.   Don’t punish yourself for that which you did not know before – praise yourself for that which you do know now.

And remember that this holds true for those around you as well.  They too are in the process of learning.  They too will know more tomorrow than they do today.  While you are practicing acceptance and forgiveness of yourself as you learn Dear One, remember to practice it for those around you as well.

Don’t fault each other for that which you have not yet learned– Help each other to learn all that you can.

You have come to this place to heal this place, Dear One.

You did not do something wrong.You are not being punished.  You are not being tested.  You are not being taught a lesson.

You are being given an opportunity to heal.

Take it.

Asking Why? will not improve your circumstances, Dear One.  But choosing to focus your attention on something better, can.

Do you know what’s coming, Dear One? Do you know what is headed your way right now?

• More of what you have been talking about.
• More of what you have been thinking about.
• More of what you have been giving your attention to.
• More proof that what you believe is true.

Now that you know, are you looking forward to its arrival? Do you think you will be happy when it gets here?

If your answer is yes, fantastic!

If your answer is no, you should know that there is still time to do something about it.

How long will it take to change, Dear One?

That depends.

• How long are you planning to continue to hold on to what is?
• How long are you planning to continue to remain stagnant, motivated by fear, insecurity, doubt, and uncertainty?
• How long are you planning to continue to think that experiencing well-being requires great effort?
• How long are you planning to continue to not trust?
• How long are you planning to continue to hold on to the idea that change is hard?

How long will it take for you to change, Dear One?

You tell us.

There truly is only one choice for you to make everyday, Dear One, and that is to choose to allow life to flow through you, or to choose to not allow life to flow through you.

Every other decision that you make is just a expression of either one or the other.

• Trust more.
• Struggle less.

That’s all there is to it!

The more you trust, Dear One; your heart, your intuition, your gut, source, the universe, yourself, the less you will experience struggle.

Don’t over think this one.  Don’t struggle with the idea.  Don’t spend too much time trying to decide whether or not you believe this is true.

Just trust that it is, and see for yourself.