The stronger choice, the wiser choice, the more powerful choice, Dear One, will always be the one that moves you closer to that which is wanted instead of away from that which is unwanted.

Does that help?

You can not change the past, Dear One.
You can’t undo that which has been done.
It’s just not possible.

It is not within your power to do so.

Isn’t that great news?

So you can finally let yourself off the hook and give yourself permission to stop wasting your time, energy and effort wishing, hoping, and praying that things could have been different.

But what is within your power to change, is the way that you feel about an event, circumstance, or experience from you past.

In any moment you can change what it means to you, you can change how you feel about it, you can change its significance in your life, and most importantly, you can change how you are going to choose to respond to it.

Why not make that moment this one?

What if, instead of being discouraged by what is, Dear One, you got excited about what could be?

If you are feeling tight, restricted, tense, frustrated, boxed in, or cut off, Dear One, it is very likely that it is because you are living a life that is entirely too small for you.

The remedy to this malady is a simple one:

• Remember that there is no limit to what is possible for you, no box you must fit in to, no plan you must adhere to, no path you must follow.
• Take a deep breath.  Expand your lungs. Unclench your fists hands.  Widen your eyes. Open your mind.  Open you heart.  And trust, believe what we are telling you is true.
• And then dream bigger, and allow your world to expand.

Having a bad day, Dear One?

Trust us, it won’t last.  Experience has already taught you that it won’t, it never does.

The quicker that you can remember that, the quicker that you can get back to focusing your attention elsewhere; on that which is working, on those things that you love, that bring you joy, that make you laugh, that inspire you, that trigger in you feelings of gratitude, hope, excitement, love, and anticipation, the quicker it will pass.

Just in case you were wondering, Dear One, the antidote to conflict is acceptance.

Complete and total acceptance.

Not approval.  Not agreement.  Not compromise.  Not settling.  Not accommodating.  Not pretending.  Not lying.  Not cheating. Not faking it.  And most definitely not resignation.

If you want to diffuse a conflict, Dear One, accept what is, exactly as it is, for exactly what it is, as quickly as you possibly can.

And once you do, once you stop pushing, resisting, railing against what is, once you let go of the emotional charge that conflict brings to a situation, then, and only then, will you be in a position (a very powerful one actually) to make a thoughtful, rational, intentional, and heartfelt decision about what you are going to do next.

You have a unique opportunity available to you today, Dear One, that will not be available to you tomorrow.

Today, you have the opportunity to make THIS day unforgettable.

• You can make it the day that you risked it all, or the day that you that you played it safe.
• You can make it the day that you finally spoke up, spoke your truth, or the day that you remained silent.
• You can make it the day that you gave up, or the day that you asked for help.
• You can make it the day that you changed your life, or the day that you remained the same.

This opportunity will not be available to you tomorrow, Dear One.

So you better take advantage of it, while you still can.

How do you achieve mastery of your own heart, Dear One?

You trust it.

If your goal is to prolong your suffering. Dear One, to make it worse, add to it, to expand upon it, and invite as many people as you possible can to join you in it, then by all means keep talking about it, beating yourself up about it, focusing on it, and judging yourself harshly for whatever it is that you believe that you have done or have had done to you.

But, if what you desire is to let it go, heal from it, improve upon it, distance yourself from it, change it for the better, move past it, and in every way possible, get over it as quickly as you possibly can, then you’re going to want to choose positive, loving, compassionate, hopeful and enthusiastic thoughts, feelings, and behaviors instead.

Do you want to know the fastest way to get from where you are to where you want to be, Dear One?

Slow down.

Practice patience.

The more focused and centered you are, the more clarity you have, the more intentional your actions, the better you feel, the more effective you will be.

It is hard to feel good, grounded, centered, focused, and move with intention when you are stressed, frustrated, hurried, and rushing.

Practice patience Dear One, move with joy, clarity, and intention rather than speed, and watch as the distance between where you are and where you want to be shrinks at the speed of thought.