Bad things happen, Dear One.
Tough, frightening, painful, undesirable things are going to happen.

THAT it happened is what is significant to us today. Much more so than WHY it happened.

We understand that when unwanted things happen you want to know why so you can do all that you can to avoid it from happening again.

But the truth is, Dear One, that you can’t.

You can’t stop/prevent/avoid all unwanted things from reaching you. No matter how diligent you are, no matter how consciously you live. Imbalance will always find you. It will always be able to reach you. It is a consequence of being alive.

Prevention and avoidance are not where your efforts and attention will be best spent.
But rather tolerance, coping, self-care, and realignment are the arts you want to master for longevity.

That is what the wise do.

And the wise have become wise, Dear One, not by knowing/having all of the answers, and by avoiding all unwanted things, but by remaining open to insight and learning how to ask the right questions at the right time.

So, when bad things happens, instead of asking ‘Why me?’, the wise would ask;  What is my quickest path to recovery? What do I need to do to get back into alignment from here?

ON A PERSONAL NOTE: This one was a little more complex than usual. If you need help sorting it out, please reach out. I’m here. 

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When unwanted things happen, Dear One, it is not uncommon for many of you to ask; Did I do something bad to deserve this? Am I being punished?

And our answer to this question is always the same; No, you absolutely did not.

Imbalance is not a punishment.
It is simply a reality of misalignment.

Like cold is a reality of snow, and heat is a reality of the sun.

So, no, Dear One, when unwanted things happen, know that it is absolutely not because you deserve it, and you absolutely are not being punished.

And now that you know, you can release yourself from the restrictive bonds of this belief, and allow yourself to get back to focusing your attention on the vitally important work of seeking alignment, and restoring balance.

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That which is for your greatest good today, Dear One, is for you to realize/remember/embrace the fact that you absolutely did not end up here by mistake.

This. Right here. Exactly where you are now, is precisely where you are meant to be, where you need to be.

Here, Dear One, is that which is for your greatest good.
Here is where you are meant to be.

And you are loved.

So many of you start your day asking: Will it ever get better?

And the answer to your question is no, Dear One, it won’t ever just get better.

If you want it better, you’re going to have to make it better.

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Being mindful is not a way of life, Dear One, a way to live your life, a practice.
It is life
It is living

It is as vital as breath, as food, as drink.

Mindfulness is what living is.
It is the point.
It is the whole point.

Now go back and read this again from the top, mindfully.

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What should be doing with your life?
What are you meant to be doing with your life?

That, Dear One, is a decision, a choice that can and should only be made in the moment, for the moment.

Not having a definitive answer to this very big question is not actually the problem you are struggling with.  Trying to make a decision about what you want to do, or be, or have for all of the rest of your days is.  Trying to decide it all, SO much ahead of time is the problem.

Decide/choose what you want IN EACH MOMENT, Dear One.

• Choose from what is in front of you.
• Choose what makes you feel strong.
• Choose what makes you feel connected.
• Choose what makes you feel empowered.
• Choose what makes you feel aligned.

Do this, Dear One, over, and over and over again, and you will be living exactly the life that is meant for you.

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You are not working so hard to heal, Dear One, so you can serve them better; so you are better able to show up for them, in their lives.

The purpose of your effort is to heal so you can serve you better.

And if  “they” should benefit as a result, then so be it!

P.S.
When you heal, Dear One, everyone benefits.

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Being brave does not require that you be physically or emotionally strong, Dear One. It does not require that you be fearless or aggressive either. Nor does it require you to take a risk, be courageous, or just-do-it.

All that is required for you to be brave, Dear One, is trust.

If you are feeling resentful, Dear One, and don’t want be feeling this way anymore, instead of focusing your attention on the object of your resentment, stop and ask yourself – What is it that I am refusing to take responsibility for?

• Is it my actions?
• Is it my beliefs?
• Is it my reactions?
• Is it my own feelings of powerlessness?

Resentment is a defense mechanism, Dear One, used to protect you from something.
It is a blocking tool that is thrown up to keep you from having to face things you may not want to face, and answering questions you don’t even want to ask, like;

• How did I create this?
• What in this circumstance did I ask for?
• What is the benefit to me of being here?

Your feelings of resentment is how you know that the answers to these questions are near.
And it is how you know that you are finally ready to hear them.

Resentment is the knock at the door, Dear One.
And the answers that you seek are right on the other side.
Let them in, and your resentment will be no more.

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If you are looking for your confidence, Dear One, look no further.

It is right here, right now, right where you are standing.

– It is not trapped in a moment in your past.
– It is not waiting for you in a moment in your future.

It exists in the only place that it can, in the only place where it has any power; in the present moment.

Be here, now, Dear One, and you’ll have access to all that you want, all that you need, and then some.