If you feel as if you have lost your balance, Dear One, if you feel as if you are having trouble getting both of your feet planted firmly on the ground, the single most important thing that you can do for yourself in this moment,  is to find it again.

How can you do that?

By asking yourself the following before every step that you take, and answering it honestly:

Will this choice, will this action, will this conversation, will this program, will this meal, will this purchase, will this person, will this decision, bring me closer to achieving a state of balance in my life or carry me farther away from it?

That’s how.

Whether you are painting a picture, writing a poem, baking bread,  fixing cars, teaching Spanish, selling stocks, playing the flute, designing skyscrapers, sketching tattoos, balancing spreadsheets, or a spoon on the end of your nose – what you do today, Dear One, is of so much less importance to us than how you feel while you are doing it.

Learning how to be brave, Dear One, is not about learning how to ignore your fears.  It is not about learning how to summon up the courage to push, force, or convince yourself to do something that you are afraid to do, that you don’t think you are capable of doing.

Learning how to be brave is about learning how to listen to and trust that part of yourself that knows exactly what it is that you are capable of, that knows exactly how much you can endure, that knows exactly just how powerful, clever, resilient, valuable, and strong you are, and prioritizing that voice above every other one that is telling you otherwise.

Don’t make yourself nervous worrying so much about what “they” will or do think about you, Dear One.

We can think of no greater waste of your time.

If you are really needing to make yourself nervous about something, be nervous worrying about what YOU think of you.

Because if what you think of you is not wonderful, delightful, positive, or even just mostly more good than not, then their opinion of you really is the least of your troubles.

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And there isn’t much you can do to change the way that they see you anyway. But there is LOTS you can do to change how you see you. And we can think of no greater use of your time than working on that.

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If you want to start feeling better about the decisions that you are making in your life, Dear One, we have a suggestion for you:

Only make decisions that you feel good about, and stop asking other people what they think about them.

Know, Dear One, that the universe is very good at filling up empty spaces with wonderful things, if you let it.

Reason dictates, Dear One, that things are going to get bad, again, worse even, before they get any better.

But is life really dictated by reason?

We think not.
A truth that has been demonstrated to you time and time again.
What is reasonable rarely ever comes to pass.

So,  if not reason, then what can you rely on to dictate/ to predict/ to inform/ to help you prepare for what’s coming next?

It’s Faith, Dear One.

Faith is what is needed, faith is what is required, faith is what you want to hold on to and rely on more than anything else as you anticipate and prepare yourself to move ahead, as you prepare for what’s coming next.

Hold on to faith, Dear One, not reason, and breathe deeply again as you allow its limitless possibilities and potential to  blow the limited capacity of reason far out of sight and mind.

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Do you know where you belong, Dear One?

You belong in a place that makes you happy.  You belong with people that you love and that love you.  You belong wherever it is that you feel strong, supported, powerful, creative, and useful.  You belong where you feel encouraged, inspired, and energized, hopeful, courageous, accepted and safe.

That’s where.

If when you look around, you find that you are not in a place like this, then perhaps it is time for you to acknowledge that where you are might not be the right place for you after all, and move on.