It is so much easier to make a decision, Dear One, when you are clear on what it is that you want, on what direction it is that you want to be moving.

Choosing is not meant to be a guessing game.

So, if you are stuck, if you are unclear as to what choice you want to make next, what action you want to take next, how you want to respond, here are a few simple questions that may make it easier for you to decide.

Ask yourself, in this moment:

• Do you want to love more or less?
• Do you want to trust more or less?
• Do you want to connect more or less?
• Do you want to be more or less compassionate?
• Do you want to be more or less brave?
• Do you want to be more or less creative?
• Do you want to be more or less confident?
• Do you want to be more or less trustworthy?

Are you ready to choose now, Dear One?

Not now, not then, not ever, Dear One, will you ever be in a position where your options, your choices, your possibilities, are controlled, dictated, or determined by anyone other than yourself, at least not without your permission.

Please try to remember that the next time you look around and find yourself feeling as though your options are limited.

Sometimes the best way you can give back, Dear One, is to say thank you, mean it, and keep moving forward.

The people, circumstances, events, and relationships in your life are not the problem, Dear One.

It is your reaction to them, your expectations of them, your behavior towards them, and your beliefs about them that is causing most of your discontent.

Isn’t that wonderful news?

You don’t have to wait, hope, pray or push for them to change in order for things to get better.

You can change you, at your own pace, in your time, however and whenever you are ready to do so, and start to make things better any time.

Even right now if you want!

What thought do you think would bring you the greatest amount of joy, the greatest amount of pleasure, to think right now, Dear One?

Are you thinking it?

Good!

Trust, believe, keep an open heart and an open mind, and you’ll feel us with you every step of the way, Dear One.

Don’t, and we’ll still be with you, only you just may not feel it.

Whenever you get the desire to quit, Dear One, to throw in the towel, and give up before the end, ask yourself why it is that you want to do so, before you take any action.

• Is it because quitting will release you from a commitment that no longer serves you? Because it will bring you greater pleasure, joy, freedom, and opportunity to pursue something else that you believe will serve you?

• Is it because quitting will release you from having to do the hard work required to complete a difficult task?  Because it will prevent you from confronting your fears, from facing uncomfortable feelings, from the discomfort of growth and moving beyond that which is familiar to you, that which feels safe, into a place that could lead you to who knows where?

Quit or don’t quit, Dear One. That is your choice.

But whatever you decide, we just want to make sure that you are fully aware of your reasons for doing so, before you make it happen.

The only time that what they say, what they think, and what they believe matters, Dear One, is when you decide that it does.

Please remember that today.

Emotional security is a state of mind, Dear One.

One that you can choose to experience anytime that you would like.

You can choose to allow yourself to experience it when you have the relationship that you want, or the job that you want, or the salary that you want, or the house that you want, or the family that you want, or the body that you want.

OR

You can choose to allow yourself to experience it right now, just as you are.

It’s totally and completely up to you!

*If you have questions about how to make that happen, please feel free to ask.

[NOTE TO SELF]

Remember, Dear One, that regardless of how scared, chaotic, lost, or out of control you feel, that the world feels right now, your center, your home,  is only one slow, deep breath away.

And we are there.

Always.