Choosing to change can be hard enough, Dear One, so if you are going to go for it, why not choose to leave the judgment out of it.

What does that mean?

• It means no beating yourself up for wanting, needing or having to change in the first place, for not doing it sooner, perfectly, or as good as, or better than anyone else.
• It means no harsh or negative self-talk while you in the middle of it (or at any other time either for that matter).
• It means no could have’s, should have’s, or would have’s if only I had……
• It means not using someone’s else’s path, experience, or success as an opportunity to diminish your own.

Think about how much more energy you could put into the process Dear One, you could  have available to you to dedicate to your work, to yourself, to the changes that you are trying to make, if you left the judgment out.

Trust us.  It’s a lot.

You can’t quit, Dear One.

• Not because you shouldn’t.
• Not because you couldn’t
• Not because it’s a sign of weakness, failure or an admittance of guilt or incompetence if you do

You can’t quit because whatever it is you are trying to get away from by quitting is not going to go away until you deal with it, confront it, face it, handle it, learn from it, address it head on.  It will keep coming back, in one form or another, again and again and again, until you do.

When it comes down to it, quitting really is nothing more than a delay tactic.

It is a defeatist act rooted in frustration, desperation and a belief in powerlessness, and it resolves nothing

But making a conscious decision to walk away, choosing to make a different choice, an empowered choice, now that is an entirely different story altogether.

When you are unsure, Dear One, about the decision you are about to make, take a minute and ask yourself this question:

• Will this choice, will this action, will engaging in this relationship, will moving forward in this direction, will investing my energy here, serve my greatest good?

And then don’t think about the answer, listen for it instead, and then you will know.

Take a deep breath, let it all go, and begin again.

Starting over can be as easy as that, Dear One, if you let it be.

Act courageously today, Dear One; say what you think, do what you feel, honor your heart, act on its behalf.

And then celebrate the fact that you have done so – regardless of the outcome.

This is not a practice designed to get you to take bigger strides, its an exercise to help you feel good about consciously making more authentic ones.

You find what you are looking for, Dear One.

Always.

• Are you finding evidence of abundance in your life or are you finding evidence of a lack of abundance?
• Are you finding healing or are you finding evidence of a lack of healing?
• Are you finding love or are you finding evidence of a lack of love?
• Are you finding opportunity or are you finding evidence of a lack of opportunity?

If you are not finding what you are wanting Dear One, try paying closer attention to what it is that you are really looking for.

If you want to start feeling better about the decisions that you are making in your life Dear One, stop asking other people for their opinions about them.

You are here to have a personal experience of you, not a duplicate experience of someone else. There is no one that can ever know what is best for you better than you can.

Trust yourself a little bit more, your gut, your instincts and act accordingly. Make conscious decisions that make sense to you and soon you will find yourself living in a reality that is much more you then ever before.

What do you see/feel when you look around you Dear One? Do you see the life that you want for yourself unfolding before your eyes, or do you see someone else’s version of the perfect reality?

Give yourself some time to adjust to the fact that you are the creator of your own reality if you need to. But start trusting yourself and making decisions based on your desires, your experiences and your instincts right away.  There is no reason at all for you to wait.  Note how each decision makes you feel so that you can learn more about yourself and your preferences with each one that you make.

What we know, Dear One, that you might not, is that the only force in the universe that is capable of preventing you from doing, being, having, accomplishing, creating, or completing anything that you want, is you.

Do you want to know which of your relationships are sustainable Dear One, and which are not?

If you do, ask yourself this question:

• At its core, is the connection one that is based on a foundation of growth, or one of attachment?

One of the two is sustainable, and the other is not.

It’s just that simple.

But remember this; that letting go of the attachment does not necessarily mean letting go of the relationship.  It could mean that.  But it could also be the start of something new, something different, something really great.

Be patient, Dear One.

• Not because it is a virtue
• Not because we are asking you to
• Not because it is the adult, polite, enlightened or spiritual thing to do

We want you to be patient Dear One, because the energy of impatience only serves to hold you apart from all of the things that you have been wanting, needing, hoping, and praying for.