Contrary to popular belief (and practice), Dear One, healing does just happen.

Your very vital and active role in the process is to create an environment, both internally and externally, that will allow it to happen.

And if you should need them, the doctors, counselors, teachers, or healer’s role, is to help you to do it.

Taking good care of yourself does not mean pushing yourself to extremes, Dear One, to do all that you want to do, and be all that you want you to be.  And it also does not mean sheltering yourself from challenges, protecting yourself from your fears, giving up, quitting, or walking away when things get tough either.

Taking good care of yourself means always remembering to love yourself enough to choose balance, to choose joy, to choose patience and compassion in every moment, knowing that doing so will not inhibit your progress along your path but will actually hasten it.

You can never undo that which has been done, Dear One.

It’s impossible.

So please don’t waste your precious time and energy trying.

Once you have had an experience, for better or for worse, it is yours forever.

And regardless of how deeply you wish it could be so, no amount of regret, guilt, remorse, anger, self-pity, self-loathing, sadness, or hatred is ever going to change that.

But know this, that you are never without options, that there is always something that you can do.

It is always within your power Dear One, to change the way that you feel about it, to change what it means to you, to change its significance in your life.

And changing that, changes everything.

In your search for balance Dear One, are you:

A:  Aligning yourself with what feels good to you, your passions, your priorities, your needs, your wants, your desires, your vision for your life?

B:  Aligning yourself with what you think is suppose to feel good , with what you think your priorities are supposed to be, with what you think you are supposed to want, need and desire for yourself or with what they want, need or desire for you?

If you are continually finding yourself out of balance, out of alignment Dear One, your answer to this question may help you to understand why.

Passion, inspiration, intuition, and joy are all “tools” that your soul uses, Dear One, to speak to you to, to connect with you, to get your attention, to guide you, to motivate you, to encourage you to move in one direction or another, every single day.

So pay attention.

When you get a hit, big or small, of any of them, it means that you have just stumbled across something that your soul does not want you to miss, that is worthy of pursuit, of further investigation, that is, in one way or another, in alignment with who you really are.

1. Trust
2. Let Go
3. Connect

What can you do for someone who is leaving you Dear One, for someone who is in the process of leaving your physical world and transitioning to spirit?

You can do the only thing for them that you can ever do for anyone else in your life, regardless of what stage of living or dying they are in.

You can love them.

Loving them is not pitying them. And loving them is not fearing for them.  And loving them it is not fixing them, healing them, or deceiving them either.

The very best thing that we can tell you to do for your love today Dear One, for all of your friends and loved ones  for that matter is this – just keep right on loving them.

Standing in front of a well-stocked refrigerator will not make you any less hungry, Dear One.

Sandwiches do not magically make themselves.

Happiness works in much the same way.

If you want some (or more), you’re going to have to reach out (or in) and help yourself.

There are two different ways that you can choose to approach the subject of rejection in your life, Dear One:

• You can let “them” and their opinion of you be the determining factor in whether or not you feel accepted or rejected.

• You can make a conscious decision to look for, acknowledge, and release old patterns and old feelings of rejection that already exist within you, that you have been either ignoring or holding on to, so that no one will ever be able to trigger them in you again.

Which sounds like the more empowered approach to you?

You’ll find peace, Dear One, the moment that you accept that it already exists within you.