Love is a choice Dear One.

The experience of it, the giving and receiving of it, does not just happen. You have to choose it, you have to choose to open yourself up to it, to allow it.

When two people make the decision to choose to experience it together, to give and receive it openly, freely, and confidently, to open themselves up to an experience of the divine and let love flow to them and through them, that is a sacred act, that is an example of a sacred union; a merging of you, them and the energy of all that is.

A holy man, a place of worship, a ritual, a doctrine, a document or a vow is not the force that makes the union sacred Dear One; you are.

You don’t only hurt when you are injured Dear One. You don’t only feel discomfort when something is broken.

Sometimes you hurt because you are in a space that no longer fits you, that is too small for you, that you have outgrown.

This may be one of those times.

How do you know?  If you believe that feeling better will require you to move backwards, to undo something that has already been been done, to take back something that has already been said, you know.

If that is the case Dear One, don’t try and fix it.  Don’t try to stop it, bandage it or cure it.  Don’t spend your time running around looking for a remedy that will help you to restore what was, that will allow you to move yourself back into the place that you were before, back into that space that felt safe, familiar and comfortable to you.

You don’t belong there anymore.

Just let it be.  Allow yourself to feel the unease, to feel the tension, to feel the discomfort that comes from being in a place that doesn’t fit.  Allow it to inspire within you a desire to move forward, from where you are now to someplace new, to someplace larger, more spacious and wide open.

And then when that inspiration strikes Dear One, when you see an opportunity that will allow you to move ahead instead of back, take it.

Yes, sometimes you hurt because you are injured and you need to retreat, rest, and allow what was to be restored.

But only you can know for sure Dear One, if now is really one of those times.

This is your life Dear One.

• Love it
• Hate it
• Enjoy it
• Waste it
• Share it
• Expand it
• Embrace it
• Fear it
• Trust it
• Celebrate it
• Worry it away

Whatever you choose to do with it, is totally and completely up to you.

Your life will change the moment that you do, Dear One.

And not a moment before.

The day does not require you to be brilliant, funny, witty, charming, or thin Dear One.

It does not require you be as good as, or better than anyone else.

It does not even require that you be as good as or better than you were yesterday.

The only thing that it requires Dear One, is that you be you, and do the best that you can do, today.

Make all of your decisions today, Dear One, as if there was someone standing beside you, holding your hand, encouraging you, supporting you, loving you, adoring you, believing in you, cheering you on every step of the way.

Why?

Because there is.

You have no idea just how big of a support system you’ve got working for you behind the scenes.

Please remember to use them.

Leaping and being pushed are two completely different experiences Dear One.

A friend that encourages you to leap is a good friend indeed.

A friend that pushes you over the edge, with or without your consent, is no friend at all.

When exiting a comfort zone Dear One, you should always do so by choice, by your own free will.

Leaping and being pushed do not both land you in the same place.

Remember that.

Do you believe yourself to be a victim of the circumstances of your life Dear One, or the creator of them? 

Take a minute to think about it before you answer, because your reply will pretty much determine the course of the rest of your day, your week, your month, your year, your life.

You are the author of your life, Dear One.

You are the one writing your own history everyday.

You are the only one who gets to decide what kind of story it will be.

So what kind of history do you want to write for yourself today?

• Do you want to write a story about joy, love, compassion, bravery, or connection?   About creativity, taking a risk, forgiveness, patience or perseverance?
• Or do you want to write a story about fear, guilt, getting by, playing it safe or making excuses?  About jealousy, anger, ego, hatred, frustration or giving up?

You’ve got complete creative freedom Dear One.

Write yourself well!

Direct your energy consciously Dear One, and it will go where you send it.

You will always pretty much know in what direction it is headed, and it is unlikely that you will ever be completely surprised when it gets there.

(Excited? Yes! Pleased? Absolutely! Overjoyed? Of course! But totally surprised? Probably not.)

But stop paying attention, and hand the reigns over to your unconscious self and let it do the driving, and you can pretty much guarantee that you will always be surprised by where your energy ends up.

If that destination is a good surprise for you, fantastic! That means that your unconscious self is serving you well.

However if the destination is not a good surprise, if you are finding yourself on the receiving end of something that you did not request, that is not desired in any way, shape or form, well then you’ve got some work to do.

But you’ve also got a very useful piece of information in your hands Dear One; a confirmation that you are not paying as close attention as you could be to how you are directing and flowing your energy.

And unlike an unwelcome surprise that has already found its way to your doorstep, that is something that you absolutely can do something about.