Friend, boyfriend, lover, wife, spouse, partner, neighbor, sister, brother, cousin, best friend, confidant, significant other, soul mate, buddy, companion, associate, cohort or chum. 

You have lots of ways of defining, categorizing and labeling your relationships Dear One.  And we realize that these measures can be greatly varied, intricately complicated, highly emotional, and hold a great deal of significance for you.   We know that they strongly influence and in some cases totally determine how you act towards someone, how you think, feel and react around them, and your expectations of them.   We get it. We really do understand.

But from where we are standing there truly is only one measure by which all relationships are defined, categorized and labeled — and that measure Dear One, is the amount of love shared.

As we see it, how you choose to define a relationship is so much less significant than the amount of love that you choose to bring to it and allow yourself to experience within it.

So, what is in a name Dear One?

As far as we are concerned, as long as there is love there, not a whole hell of a lot.

Do you want to know the best way to get what you want from them Dear One?

We’ll tell you.

Give it to them.

If you don’t ever trust yourself enough to really let go and follow you heart Dear One, how do you ever expect to get to where it is trying to lead you?

When you first wake up, Dear One, this is the time to begin creating the day that you want for yourself. This is the time to think about, get excited about, anticipate, look forward to, and get ready to move towards, find, create, and embrace all that you want – and for nothing else.

Laugh Dear One.  Laugh out loud, every chance that you can.  Don’t hold back.

Why?

Because laughter is an elixir and it  can cure what ails you.  Because you are never more open, more receptive, or more free then when you are loving and laughing.  It is like standing outside in the rain and trying not to get wet.  That is what laughter is like for healing.  You can not stand uncovered in the rain without getting wet, and you can’t laugh without allowing well-being to flow to you, through you and from you.

Now is the time to lighten up, Dear One.

It really is okay to not take it all so seriously – whatever it is – even the really, big, important, seriously scary stuff.

We say this to you not to disrespect, trivialize, dismiss or belittle whatever very difficult, important or challenging situation, circumstance or event you might be dealing with at the moment.

We say this to you to help you to remember that you can choose to approach it, deal with it, and move past it with ease, grace, joy, confidence and levity just as easily as you can with intensity, struggle, stress, drama, fear, and doubt.

Maybe you are not lost at all, Dear One.

Maybe you are simply in the process of moving into someplace new, someplace better, someplace you have never been before.

Did you ever think of that?

Give all of your attention only to that which is wanted today Dear One, in all situations, under all circumstances, no matter what.

That does not mean that we want you to force yourself to pretend to be happy, hopeful, healthy, or helpful when that is not genuinely what you are feeling.

What it means is that we want you to give yourself permission to turn your head and choose a different view or a different perspective, to imagine a different outcome, if what you see is not what you want.

We have two requests for you today Dear One.

1. Choose words, thoughts, actions, activities, projects, and relationships that make you feel good, over those that don’t.
2. Forgive yourself immediately if you should start to feel badly about needing the reminder to do so.

When your behaviors are no longer serving you Dear One, when they stop yielding the desired results, when your actions are no longer in alignment with your thoughts, feelings,
and desires – don’t start doubting yourself, your choices, your abilities, or your judgment. Don’t get angry, frustrated, or hopeless.  Don’t start looking for something or someone to blame.

Instead, try remembering that life is constantly changing, and so are you.

If the beliefs, routines, rituals, patterns and behaviors that brought you comfort, security, health, relief and joy yesterday, do not do so today – it may simply be time to change them.