What’s the big deal about saying “I can’t”  Dear One?

We’ll tell you.

Once you decide that you can’t, once you make up your mind and choose to believe this as your truth, it will become your truth.  And when it does, doors will immediately begin to disappear from your sight as a result.

Once you decide that you can’t, you cut yourself off from countless possibilities, you cut yourself off from so many experiences that are and have always been available to  you.

And once that happens, you are no longer able to see the world as it really is – infinite.  You are no longer able to see the truth of your reality, the truth that anything is possible –  and your worldview begins to get smaller.  And the smaller it gets, the more cut off you feel.  And the more cut off you feel, the more you close doors.  And the more you encounter closed doors, the more you begin to experience and believe in a reality defined by your self imposed limitations.  And the more that happens, the harder it becomes for you remember what the world looks like and feels like when anything was possible.

So yes Dear One, saying I can’t is a very big deal.

Please don’t do so lightly.

The stronger choice, the more powerful choice, the more empowering choice, Dear One, will always be the one that moves you closer to that which is wanted instead of away from that which is unwanted.

Does that help?

Truly, the only way that you can fail Dear One, is to not try.

To connect or not to connect.

That is a choice that is available to you in each and every moment of your day Dear One.

Source, God, spirit, energy, light, life force, prana, Qi, whatever you should choose to call it, is available to you, to all of you, in limitless quantities, equally, at all times, without exception.

The frequency, quality, depth, and intensity, of your connection to it has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with us, them, or it, and absolutely everything to do with you, and your desire and willingness to be open to it.

To connect or not to connect.

That is the question.

Now you tell us Dear One….What is the answer?

To say that beauty is measured by how one looks – is like saying that intelligence is measured by how one smells.

Your eyes are not the determinate of beauty Dear One, your heart is.

True beauty is not about how you look – it is about how you see.

Unfortunately Dear One, avoidance is not going to help you to relieve your anxiety.

Neither is confrontation, bravery, denial, will-power, brute strength, comradery, or perseverance.

The only thing that is going to do it, that is going to bring you relief for any sustainable length of time is trust, is learning how to trust yourself again.

And how, you might ask, are you suppose to do that?

The same way that you learn how to do anything else.

What do you think would happen Dear One, if instead of digging in, tensing up, shutting down, or pinching yourself off from well-being in anger, frustration, fear, hopelessness, or self-righteousness when facing a conflict, you relaxed, trusted, let go, accepted what was, and allowed yourself to open up to it instead?

If you don’t already know the answer, you should try it and find out.

If you don’t like something the way that it is Dear One, let it be.

That’s right. You heard us correctly.

Don’t try to fix it, fight it, change it, improve it or make it better in any way.

Simply let it be exactly as it is and make the decision to shift your attention towards that which is wanted instead.

Doing so will be a much more efficient, effective and pleasant use of your time.

Trust us.

Love is a choice Dear One.

The experience of it, the giving and receiving of it, does not just happen. You have to choose it, you have to choose to open yourself up to it, to allow it.

When two people make the decision to choose to experience it together, to give and receive it openly, freely, and confidently, to open themselves up to an experience of the divine and let love flow to them and through them, that is a sacred act, that is an example of a sacred union; a merging of you, them and the energy of all that is.

A holy man, a place of worship, a ritual, a doctrine, a document or a vow is not the force that makes the union sacred Dear One, you are.

[A PERSONAL NOTE: Sometimes I feel my heart clench with regret that I never got the chance to exchange rings with my love, and then they remind me of this, and it opens again.]

The more you Love, the more Love you bring into this world, Dear One, the more Love there will be.