The point of seeking out a loving relationship is not to find someone who will love you so that you can have love in your life, so that you can have an experience of being loved. You don’t need someone to love you in order to have love in your life. You are already loved, totally, completely, deeply, and eternally.

The point Dear One, of seeking out a loving relationship is that it can teach you how to open yourself up to love, to let more love in, to let more love flow to you and through you. The right relationship will inspire you to open yourself up and allow you to experience more of the love that is already available to you.

Pay attention Dear One, to how they make you feel, to what feelings they inspire within you.

If being in their company inspires you to feel good, if it inspires confidence, bravery, curiosity, kindness, and love, then do so as much as you possibly can.

But, if being in their company, if spending time with them inspires you to feel badly about yourself, inspires you to feel suspicion, insecurity, uncertainty, inequality, and doubt, then regardless of how much love they say they have for you, what’s the point if being with them does not allow you to feel it?

If you are already running late Dear One, rushing, hurrying, being scattered, frantic, angry, short tempered and stressed out about it, is not going to fix it, undo it, or magically make it better in any way, shape or form.

But calming down, collecting yourself, being grounded, centered, and fully present and aware when you arrive just might.

Try letting joy guide all of your choices today Dear One, instead of obligation, fear, reason, logic, avoidance or self-loathing.

See if you like where you end up as a result.

We need you to do something very important for us today Dear One.

Be genuine. Be authentic. Be brave. Be honest.  Be open.  Be curious. Be conscious. Be silly. Be scared. Be uncertain. Be doubtful. Be flawed.

Be human.

Be you.

From where we are sitting Dear One, we can very clearly see that most of your daily discomfort, pain, frustration, and unhappiness is not being caused by your current situation, circumstances, relationships, or available opportunities.

It is being caused by your thoughts about your current situation, circumstances, relationships, and available opportunities.

And we just wanted to take this opportunity to remind you, that it is well within your power to change your thoughts anytime that you want.

Even right this minute if you would like to.

There are many things in this world that you can’t control Dear One.

But your thoughts are not one of them.

If the one that you are thinking right now is not pleasing to you, does not feel good, is not causing you joy,  we want to remind you that you can take charge, and choose another.

Some thoughts can be so overwhelming, so all encompassing, so powerful that it can be easy to forget that you are choosing them.

But make no mistake Dear One, you are.

Remember Dear One, whenever you feel scared, chaotic, lost, or out of control, that your center, your home,  is always only ever one slow, deep breath away.

Stop struggling, stop putting so much of your energy into trying to figure out whether or not you can trust them Dear One, whether or not you should trust them, whether or not they are trustworthy.

To trust them or not to trust them.

That is NOT the question.

The question Dear One, that you really need to know the answer to is do you trust you?

• Do you trust your instincts?
• Do you trust your judgment?
• Do you trust your ability to read people and accurately assess a situation?

Put your energy, put your effort into learning how to trust you instead.

Once you do, once you trust yourself, the question of their trustworthiness, the question of whether or not you can, or should trust them, will never again be an issue for you.

If you are still looking at the problem Dear One, the solution will continue to elude you.

Leave it all alone Dear One. Forget about trying to pick it all back up.  Truly.  Just let it all lay there exactly where it is for the moment.

And only when you are ready – start to pick back up the pieces – but selectively this time.  Choose intentionally.  Choose consciously.  Choose wisely. Pick up only those pieces that you truly want, that you truly desire, that you know will contribute to feelings of joy, love, laughter, connection and happiness in your life.  But do so, one-at-a-time.

If you keep on trying to carry the whole load with you everywhere that you go, you will only find yourself needlessly bogged down, yet again, incredibly overwhelmed, yet again and in a prime position to drop it all, yet again.

Do just one thing at a time Dear one, joyously, with an open mind and an open heart, and you will be right back on track – aligned with your life’s mission – to complete nothing and experience everything.

Remember, you never get it done.  You’ll never be finished. There is no finish line you are racing towards.  If you don’t remember to enjoy yourself along the way, then you will be missing out on the very best part of being alive, of existence.

Your life is meant to be a joy Dear One, and if the things that you are doing, from day-to-day-to-day, are no longer bringing you joy, then it is time to let them go.  Simply put them down or leave them down, and step away.