If your goal is to extend your suffering Dear One, to make it worse, add to it, expand upon it, and invite as many people as you possible can to join you in it, then by all means keep talking about it, beating yourself up about it, focusing on it, and judging yourself harshly for whatever it is that you believe that you have done or have had done to you.

But, if what you want is find relief, heal from it, improve upon it, distance yourself from it, change it for the better, move past it, and in every way possible, get over it as quickly as you possibly can, then you’re going to want to stop doing all of those things and choose positive, loving, compassionate, hopeful and forgiving thoughts, feelings, and behaviors instead.

There truly is nothing for you to be afraid of Dear One.  We would love nothing more than to see you open up completely and embrace the idea of living, of being alive, without fear.   Try it and see.

Release your tight grip on the world and on yourself and trust, float for a little while Dear One.    It is not being lazy, or irresponsible or childish if you do.  We promise.

The river is there for you to interact with in any manner that you see fit.  You can walk in it.  You can run in it.  You can swim laps in it or you can choose to just let go and float and let the river carry you to wherever you are headed.  Be afraid if you want to be.  That is your choice.  But we are here to tell you that it won’t serve you the way that you think it will.  Fear does not slow things down or prevent thing from coming to pass. It only serves to diminish your ability to experience joy, peace and contentment in the moment.

Do you think that you could decide right now Dear One, that you are going to look for, acknowledge, and speak of, only the best in every person that you interact with today?

It probably won’t be an easy thing for you to do, but we promise you that what you’ll discover on the other side will totally be worth it.

Are you up for the challenge?

Having a bad day  Dear One?

Trust us, it won’t last.  Experience has already taught you that it won’t, it never does.

The quicker that you can remember that, that quicker that you can get back to focusing your attention on that which is working, on those things that you love, that bring you joy, that make you laugh, that inspire you, that trigger in you feelings of gratitude, hope, excitement, love, and anticipation, the quicker it will pass.

How long will that take?

Well, that is entirely up to you.

Wonder. Wonder. Wonder. Wonder. Wonder. Wonder.

You can wonder “What will happen if…..” from now until forever.  But you’ll never know for sure until you try.

What are you waiting for?

The time to compromise Dear One, is not when you are feeling compromised, weak, ill, needy, or out of sorts.

That is the time for you to practice radical self-love.

And while we understand that choosing to do so may feel like the selfish choice to you, especially because it means that you are potentially letting someone else down when they need you, we can assure you, that it most definitely is not.

Choosing to practice radical self-love when you are not functioning at full strength, is actually the most selfless thing that you can do to serve the greatest good of all parties involved.

Here’s why:

1. It will help you to heal and regain your strength as quickly as possible so that you will once again be in a position to be able to confidently and generously share your energy with those around you.
2. It will give them an excellent model to follow so they can begin doing the same for themselves.

Do you want to know how to get unstuck Dear One?

Move.

Make a choice.

Take an action.

Move.

Physically, emotionally, spiritually.

Doesn’t matter where you start.  Pick your point of least resistance if you would like.

Move one and you will be creating room, opening up space for movement to occur across them all.

Only the truly brave are able to recognize their mistakes, misjudgments, and misconceptions, learn from them, forgive them, let them go, and continue on with their journey – whole – without leaving a piece of themselves behind – without paying the price of regret.

Please remember Dear One that regret is a choice, not a necessity.

Everyone makes mistakes.

But not everyone is brave enough to learn from them and let them go.

Are you?

(We believe that you are.  But all that really matters is what you believe.)

You can’t worry your way to health Dear One.

You can’t worry your way to success, abundance, joy, security, or love either.

No matter how much of your heart you put into it, no matter how deeply you commit yourself to it, worry is never going to get you to where you want to go.

We are not telling you this to encourage you to ignore your feelings Dear One.

We are telling you this to remind you that focusing your attention on something more productive might be a much better use of your time.