• Thank you for being a good friend
• Thank you for loving them as only you can
• Thank you for forgiving, letting go and allowing yourself to heal
• Thank you for taking a risk, being brave, speaking up
• Thank you for telling the truth, revealing yourself, sharing your story
• Thank you for doing something that you have never done before
• Thank you for going somewhere that you have never gone before
• Thank you for using your life to create
• Thank you for every moment that you choose to live with an open heart and an open mind

We are all better off because of it, Dear One.

And we wanted you to know it.

So, thank you.

Friend, boyfriend, lover, wife, spouse, partner, neighbor, sister, brother, cousin, best friend, confidant, significant other, soul mate, buddy, companion, associate, cohort or chum. 

You have lots of ways of defining, categorizing and labeling your relationships Dear One.  And we realize that these measures can be greatly varied, intricately complicated, highly emotional, and hold a great deal of significance for you.   We know that they strongly influence and in some cases totally determine how you act towards someone, how you think, feel and react around them, and your expectations of them.   We get it. We really do understand.

But from where we are standing there truly is only one measure by which all relationships are defined, categorized and labeled — and that measure Dear One, is the amount of love shared.

As we see it, how you choose to define a relationship is so much less significant than the amount of love that you choose to bring to it and allow yourself to experience within it.

So, what is in a name Dear One?

As far as we are concerned, as long as there is love there, not a whole hell of a lot.

The world needs you in the present moment Dear One.

Your friends and love ones need you in the present.

Your physical body needs you in the present.

And we need you in the present – as that will always be our strongest point of connection.

The past is over Dear One.   There is nothing more for you to do there.  There is nothing more you can do there.

Join us here, won’t you?

Do you know what is guiding you Dear One?  Do you know what the desire is that is motivating you to make the choices that you make?

Is it trust, love, a desire to create, connect, to be happy, to be strong, to know joy?

Or is it a desire for security, safety, acceptance, belonging, recognition, attention, or relief?

It is important that you know because before you can change, before you can create more of what it is that you want for yourself, you need to first be aware of what that is.  And know this; figuring out your desires, what it is that you want to create more of in your life is very different than figuring out what is it you want to avoid.

• A desire to avoid heartbreak is not the same as wanting more love in your life.
• A desire for less illness is not the same as wanting better health
• A desire to avoid poverty is not the same as wanting greater wealth
• A desire to feel less lonely is not the same as wanting more companionship
• A desire for less stress is not the same as wanting more time, energy, contentment, or peace of mind
• A desire for less fatigue is not the same as wanting more endurance so you can do, be, have, or accomplish all that you want.

The steps, actions, feelings, and mindset required for you to create one are dramatically different than what is required for you to create the other.

All of the attention in the world focused on a contrasting goal is not ever going to bring you any closer to attaining it, no matter how hard you try, how badly you want it, or how much you think you deserve it.

Now you know, now you aware.

Now what?

It really is okay to not take it all so seriously, Dear One – whatever it is – even the really, big, seriously important, significant, or scary stuff.

We say this to you not to disregard, disrespect, trivialize, dismiss or belittle whatever very difficult, important or challenging situation, circumstance or event you might be dealing with at the moment.

We say this to you to help you to remember that you can choose to approach it, deal with it, and move past it with ease, grace, joy, confidence and maybe even a little bit of levity, just as easily as you can with intensity, struggle, stress, drama, fear, and doubt.

You are not becoming anything Dear One.

You already are everything that you are ever going to be.

You are divine.  You are limitless. You are eternal.  You are powerful beyond belief.

And our job is to help you to come to realize this truth, believe it, and prove it to yourself, one glorious experience at a time.

Let us.

Just the same way that helping others affords you the opportunity to feel good about yourself Dear One, to feel useful, to feel as if you are serving your life’s purpose, you allowing them to help you when you are in need, does the same for them.

Let them help you when you are in need Dear One.

It really is the only fair thing to do.

Regardless of just how sticky things may get Dear One, you should know that you always have two options available to you at all times:

• Create more of what is by focusing your attention on it
• Create less of what is by focusing your attention elsewhere

Remember that despite the way that things may look, you are always the one in control of determining just how stuck you allow yourself to become in any situation.

Raging, fearing, criticizing or whining about what is Dear One, is about as useful as shaking your fist at the rain during a rainstorm is.

No matter how much effort you exert, no matter how much you wish it wasn’t so, no matter how unjust you think it might be, there is really nothing that you can do to stop the water from falling from the sky.

But what you can do is choose how you are going to react to it.

You can stay inside if you want to. You can go outside with an umbrella, a rain coat, rubber boots, or all three. You can run around the block without your clothes on, or you can choose to go out in your favorite suede coat. You can dance in a puddle or take a walk with a lightening rod.

You can’t stop the rain Dear One, but you can choose how you are going to experience it.

Why bother doing all that you can Dear One, when you can get by doing just enough?

Why bother doing the right the thing when no one really seems to care or to even be paying attention?

Why bother trusting, and making the harder, braver, more challenging choice when you’ve got something to lose?

Why bother putting in the extra effort to be thoughtful, generous, loving, persistent, patient, forgiving, and kind when it is not requested, required or expected?

Because what you put out is what you get back.

That’s why.