They are not exhausting you Dear One.

You are exhausting yourself trying to please them, choosing to prioritize them and their needs above your own.

They are not to blame.

You are doing this to yourself.

And you can choose to stop doing this to yourself anytime that you would like.

How?

By making choices that please you.

FYI – Doing so is not selfish Dear One, it is necessary.  You are of far greater value, to them, to you, to everyone and everything, when you are pleased then when you are not.

You already know that the best way to build strength in your physical body Dear One, is to use it.

But did you also know that the same goes for building strength in your emotional body as well?

If you want to feel stronger in love, don’t wait for more love to come to you, love more.

If you want to be more creative, create more.

If you want to be more trusting, trust more.

Use whatever it is you want to strengthen, Dear One, more.

It’s just that simple.

It’s not easy, but it is simple.

You’ll never really know what it’s like to be totally and completely alone Dear One.

None of us will – ever. Not you and not we.

We are all connected. We are all one and the same — physical and spirit.  We simply exist on different planes of reality from one another.  And quite clearly even that can not keep us apart.

• You can choose to tell yourself a story of isolation and disconnection if you would like
• Or you can choose to feel the power of the connection that you have with all things at all times

That decision is entirely yours.

But of all things that you think you have to be fearful of  in this life Dear One, being alone should not be one of them – because the truth is, it’s just not possible.

Gratitude is more than a feeling Dear One. And it is more than an attitude too.

It is an act of creation.

When you are grateful, when you are feeling gratitude, you are in the process of creating more of, you are in the process of inviting more of whatever it is you are grateful for into your life.

Yes, being grateful does feel good Dear One, but you should know that it is also a really good investment of your time as well.

Fear exists nowhere Dear One, except within your mind.

• Does that make it any less real?
• Does that make it any less powerful?
• Does that make it any less of a limiting or destructive force in your life?

The truth is that yes, it does, if you decide that it does.

Step out onto the field today as a pitcher instead of a catcher Dear One, and watch how the whole game changes right before your eyes.

NOTE: THIS ONE IS A REPEAT, BUT A MUCH NEEDED PERSONAL REMINDER FOR ME TODAY

You don’t only hurt when you are injured Dear One. You don’t only feel discomfort when something is broken.

Sometimes you hurt because you are in a space that no longer fits you, that is too small for you, that you have outgrown.

This may be one of those times.

How do you know?  If you believe that feeling better will require you to move backwards, to undo something that has already been been done, to take back something that has already been said, you know.

If that is the case Dear One, don’t try and fix it.  Don’t try to stop it, bandage it or cure it.  Don’t spend your time running around looking for a remedy that will help you to restore what was, that will allow you to move yourself back into the place that you were before, back into that space that felt safe, familiar and comfortable to you.

You don’t belong there anymore.

Just let it be.  Allow yourself to feel the unease, to feel the tension, to feel the discomfort that comes from being in a place that doesn’t fit.  Allow it to inspire within you a desire to move forward, from where you are now to someplace new, to someplace larger, more spacious and wide open.

And then when that inspiration strikes Dear One, when you see an opportunity that will allow you to move ahead instead of back, take it.

Yes, sometimes you hurt because you are injured and you need to retreat, rest, and allow what was to be restored.

But only you can know for sure Dear One, if now is really one of those times.

What is the best way that you can think of Dear One, to lose a relationship with someone or something that you love?

What has experience taught you?

We’ll remind you of just a few:

• You can ignore it
• Disregard it
• Take it for granted
• Stop respecting it
• Stop engaging with it
• Withhold your whole heart from it
• Remove your attention from it
• Quit putting time and energy into it

If you did all or even some of these things in a relationship with something that you cared for, be it a person, a pet, a hobby, a talent, a project, a job, your health, etc., experience has taught you that over time the result would be that your connection to it would fade.  And if you did it long enough, your relationship with it would eventually end altogether.

Well, the same holds true for relationships with people and things that you don’t love, that you don’t care for, that you don’t want in your life anymore too.

You don’t have to fight, struggle, work or try as hard as you’ve been trying to eliminate those things in your life that you don’t want there anymore Dear One.

Simply start neglecting them and it won’t be long before they will leave on their own accord.

The time for believing yourself to be weak, incapable, powerless, unworthy, unimportant, unoriginal, or anything less than you really are, is so over Dear One.

When is it that you typically start thinking about quitting Dear One?

What we have witnessed is that it is usually when you find yourself in a situation experiencing something that makes you feel as if you are not succeeding, as if you are failing.

You typically want to quit when you think that you can’t finish, win or cope, or when you do not see enough evidence of success.

Well you should know Dear One, that the only time that you will ever find evidence of impending failure is when you go looking for it.

So don’t!