There is nothing wrong with feeling badly Dear One.

And there is nothing wrong with feeling sad.

There is nothing wrong with feeling angry, jealous, mad, frustrated, judgmental, insecure or uncertain either.

If that is where you are at, if that is what you are genuinely feeling in your heart, then yes, by all means, you should honor those feelings and allow yourself to experience them fully, to learn from them, and understand what they are trying to teach you.

BUT, we want you to know that it is also honorable for you to choose not to.  It is also honorable for you to choose to prioritize your desire to feel better over whatever bad feeling you may be experiencing in the moment.  It is honorable Dear One, for you to decide to not give your attention to things that don’t feel good to you and choose instead, to give it only to things that do.

Do you understand what we are saying?

Your life is meant to be a journey Dear One; a wonderful, exciting, enlightening, inspiring, challenging, mind blowing, creative, collaborative journey.

It’s not a job.

So quit treating it like one.

Let go and let yourself enjoy the day.

Trust yourself Dear One.

Don’t wait for someone else’s approval. Don’t wait to find someone who’s done it before.  Don’t wait for someone to agree with you. Don’t wait until you are sure before you try.

Say it. Do it. Build it. Create it. Try it. Go for it.  Now.

Because what a shame it would be for you and everyone around you, if your thoughts, your ideas, your opinions, your perspective, your brilliance, if all of the things that make you uniquely you, were never shared because someone else didn’t think of them first.

If you want to create real, enduring, meaningful change in your life Dear One – you’ve got to work from the inside out.

Doing it any other way will only create frustration, anxiety, worry, and heartache, or generate temporary results at best, a lesson that we are sure that you have already learned through experience by now.

So, how do you do this?

Shift your mindset and prioritize the creation of internal beauty, balance, bliss, and love over the creation of all of the same in your external world, and you will be well on your way.

Your life could easily be dominated by good feelings Dear One, by pleasure, joy, contentment, happiness, balance and love, if  you would only allow yourself to believe that you can have all of these things without first having to pay a high price for them.

Because the truth is there is no posture or practice,  mantra or diet, book, teacher, or regimen that you must first master in order to be joyful, in order to be happy, or peaceful, secure,  content,  compassionate, forgiving, or to live a more conscious life.

The only requirement is that you allow yourself to feel good, that you make feeling good a priority.

And the surest way to do that Dear One is to focus your attention on that which makes you happy, on that which you see as possible, on that which is going right, on that which you desire, on that which makes you smile, laugh, anticipate the best, on that which you are grateful for.

Yoga, meditation, exercise, a healthy diet, a spiritual practice are all ways that can help you to achieve balance in your mental,  physical and spiritual life Dear One.  And that balance will help you to feel good, to stay healthy, to feel strong and be more confident in yourself, in your body, in your ability to handle any situation, in your capacity for trust.

But they are just a means to an end. They are not necessary.

The answer that you are looking for Dear One is simple — if you want your life to be dominated by good feelings, make choices that make you feel good.

Keep looking ahead Dear One, no matter what.

Where you are going matters so much more than where you have been.

They are going see in you Dear One, what they want to see in you, what they are ready to see in you, what they are looking for, what they are ready for, and nothing more.

And there is not a whole lot that you can do about it.

Isn’t that wonderful!

Now that you know, you don’t have to worry so much about trying to make a good impression, about trying to please them, or impress them, or win them over, you can just be you, and instead put all of your energy into doing what you do best, into doing what brings you the most joy,  into creating, sharing, and enjoying your life precisely the way that you want to.

You are not in this alone Dear One.

But you alone, are the only one who can change it.

If you want things to be different, if you want a different life, different circumstances, different stuff, you’re going to have to start choosing differently.

You are absolutely the only one who can.

You can’t punish yourself for making a mistake, misjudgment, or misstep Dear One, and come back into alignment, return to your flow, make it right again, at the same time.

You’re going to have to choose, one or the other.

You’re going to have to decide which is more important to you, returning to well-being and restoring balance, or remaining self-critical.

What’s it going to be?

As you already know very well from experience Dear One, trying to stand still in the constantly flowing river of life creates resistance, and requires so much more effort than trusting, letting go, and allowing yourself to go with the flow does.