When you see that they are hurting, when you see that they are struggling, when you see that they are lost, confused, or in pain and you want to help, but don’t know how — Love them Dear One.

There is no more useful thing that you can do.

We know that sometimes love does not seem like it’s enough, but trust us, it is.

Love heals. Love inspires. Love transforms.  Love can do a great many things.

• Don’t pity them
• Don’t fear for them
• Don’t be sad for them
• Don’t join them in their grief

See them as well.  See them as whole.  See them as prosperous.  See them as confident.  See them as happy.  See them as healed.  See them as the person that they want to be in this moment.  Hold an image of them in your mind and in your heart that they are not yet able to hold for themselves.

You can’t give your attention to their pain, to their struggle, to their problem, or their grief, and hope to be a part of their solution Dear One.

If you really want to help, if you really want to make a difference,  keep seeing the best in them, and for them and just keep loving them.

It truly is the best and most useful thing that you can do.

Right this minute, imagine Dear One, things exactly the way that you want them to be.

Are you doing it?

Are you smiling?

Good.

We think that it’s time you started holding yourself more accountable for your actions Dear One.

Celebrate your victories.  Acknowledge your accomplishments.  Praise your successes.  Honor your abilities.  Each and every one of them, big and small, everyday.

When you don’t, when you dismiss them, belittle them, or simply gloss right over them and immediately shift your attention instead to that which remains undone, to that which you have not yet achieved, not yet completed, or not yet mastered, you are doing yourself a great disservice.  Not only are you cheating yourself out of a wonderful experience, but you are tossing aside a potentially life changing moment.

Stop doing that.

One good feeling is all it takes to turn anything around.

Celebrate, acknowledge, praise and honor your accomplishments today Dear One.  It is the surest thing that you can do for yourself to guarantee that there will be more of them tomorrow.

Regret is an easy emotion to latch on to and embrace Dear One.  Costly, but easy.

It serves to keep you rooted, in the past, attached to a moment that has come and gone.
It maintains the familiar, regardless of how uncomfortable, painful or damaging it may be.

But Forgiveness is hard. Forgiveness takes courage because it moves you beyond where you are, beyond what is known to you, beyond what is familiar to you.

Forgiveness releases – allows – heals – requires you to trust, love, and let go.  It serves to bring you back into the present and frees you from emotions, thoughts, and connections that are keeping you tethered to the past, be it 5 years ago, 5 days ago or 5 minutes ago.

Regret holds on, binds you, and keeps you cemented in one place.

Forgiveness releases, frees you, and allows you to move ahead.

So now you know.

You are here to have an experience of being alive Dear One.

You can’t get it wrong.  You simply cannot.   Just like you can’t order the wrong flavor of ice cream.  No flavor is wrong.  Each flavor is just different.

The more you order – the more flavors you will get a chance to taste –  the more you will discover what your personal preferences are.  Some flavors you will like, some you will love, and some you will discover that you don’t like much at all.

But with each choice Dear One, you are learning.

As long as you keep choosing, as long as you continue to taste all that you want to taste, and allow yourself to continue to have new experiences, you can’t get it wrong.  We promise you that.

You now officially have one less thing to worry about!

There is no such thing as wasted time Dear One.  It is all your time.

Nothing you can do is a waste.

Existing – simply being alive – makes all that you do significant.

Nothing that you do (or don’t do) can ever lessen that.

• You choose what you do with your time.
• You choose what you want to acknowledge as valuable, significant or meaningful.
• You choose what you want to acknowledge as unworthy, silly or frivolous.

Others may have an opinion on the subject, but yours is the only opinion that matters.

Know Dear One, that from our perspective, there is value in everything that you do, simply because you are choosing to do it.

There is no honor Dear One, in remaining loyal to that which is hurting you – truly.  Be it a person, an idea, a set of circumstances, a set of beliefs – anything.

We don’t want to see you honoring unhealthy, abusive or painful commitments out of some sense of loyalty, or some sense of community or to maintain a dynamic that is familiar to you.

We want you to know that we will never see honor in remaining in a bad situation – not in the name of spirit/god/divinity – not because of a promise that you made – not because of a goal that you set for yourself – not in the name of love – regardless of how strongly you once believed in it.

NOW is the only time that matters.  NOW is the only moment that really counts. By letting go of unhealthy commitments that are causing you pain, you are freeing up your energy for more worthy pursuits – that will serve not only you, but the greatest good of all.

The universe wants you happy and smiling and content and grateful and joyful and creative.  And anything that stands in the way of you having or being all of these things is something that you can and should let go of.    Honor THAT.  Make THAT the new commitment that you will hold on to –  and remain loyal to –  and never let go of.  And let all of the others fall away.

Don’t miss them Dear One.

Close your eyes, open your heart and connect with them instead.

*Originally posted April 23, 3013

Today I said goodbye to dear sweet friend, and I was in need of this reminder.

Your reality is fluid Dear One. It molds itself quite readily and precisely around the shape of your beliefs.

When we say to you that it is all in your head, we are most definitely not saying to you that it isn’t real.

Quite the contrary actually.

What we are saying in fact is that if it is in your head Dear One, it will undoubtedly be a part of your reality in the very near future.

Your mind is a powerful creator, so it is important for you to remember that it will alway be in your very interest to remain mindful of what you keep in there at all times.

Friend, boyfriend, lover, wife, spouse, partner, neighbor, sister, brother, cousin, best friend, confidant, significant other, soul mate, buddy, companion, associate, cohort or chum.  

You have lots of ways of defining, categorizing and labeling your relationships Dear One.  And we realize that these measures can be greatly varied, intricately complicated, highly emotional, and hold a great deal of significance for you.   We know that they strongly influence and in some cases totally determine how you act towards someone, how you think, feel and react around them, and your expectations of them.   We get it. We really do understand.

But from where we are standing there truly is only one measure by which all relationships are defined, categorized and labeled — and that measure Dear One, is the amount of love shared.

As we see it, how you choose to define a relationship is so much less significant than the amount of love that you choose to bring to it and allow yourself to experience within it.

So, what is in a name Dear One?

As far as we are concerned, as long as there is love there, not a whole hell of a lot.