You should know Dear One, that it is perfectly okay for you to choose to throw yourself a pity party, if that is what you genuinely feel like you need to do.

But just remember, that every minute that you are choosing to invest in feeling sorry yourself, is a minute that you are not investing in doing something more productive, positive, or pleasurable for yourself that just might help you to start turning things around.

Have your party if need to Dear One, if you think it will help, if you think it will make you feel better.

Just don’t let it go on too long, okay?

Don’t try so hard to do, be and have it all Dear One.

•  Just keep choosing the things that you want over the things that you don’t want.
• Just keep choosing the things that you like over the things that you don’t like.
• Just keep choosing the things that make you smile over the things that don’t.
• Just keep choosing the things that make you feel good over the things that make you feel badly.

Just keep choosing the things that make you happy over the things that don’t, and you’ll soon come to find Dear One, that one decision at a time, you can do, be and have it all.

Did you know that any decision that you make confidently, joyfully, with an open heart, from a good feeling place, regardless of how impetuous or how well thought out it may be,  will always bring you closer to that which you are seeking than any made from a place of tension, stress, confusion, turmoil or emotional distress?

It’s true!

You can’t quit Dear One.

• Not because you shouldn’t.
• Not because you couldn’t
• Not because it’s a sign of weakness, failure or an admittance of guilt or incompetence if you do

You can’t quit because whatever it is you are trying to get away from by quitting is not going to go away until you deal with it, confront it, face it, handle it, learn from it, address it head on.  It will keep coming back, in one form or another, again and again and again, until you do.

When it comes down to it, quitting really is nothing more than a delay tactic.

It is a defeatist act rooted in frustration, desperation and a belief in powerlessness, and it resolves nothing

But making a conscious decision to walk away, choosing to make a different choice, an empowered choice, now that is an entirely different story altogether.

Feeling overwhelmed Dear One?

You know there is a relatively simple solution that can help you to not feel that way anymore.

Instead of focusing your attention on feelingoverwhelmed, focus it on an activity, thought, or belief that makes you feel empowered, balanced, peaceful or some other desired emotional state instead.

We said it was simple Dear One, we never said it would be easy.

Don’t make NOW the moment that you gave up Dear One. Don’t make it the moment that you failed, or the moment that it didn’t work either. Don’t make it the moment that you didn’t get it done, that you didn’t measure up, that you could’t make it work, or that you realized that you were just too far off course to ever get yourself over to the place where you really want to be.

Make NOW an empowered moment, an powerful moment, a triumphant moment.

Make NOW the moment that you turned it all around instead.

Do you trust yourself enough to really let go, to follow your heart and  see where it will take you?

If yes, what are you waiting for?

If no, what are you waiting for?

It would be absurd Dear One, to begin your day by making a choice to intentionally create negative experiences for yourself.

Right?

And yet, that is exactly what you are doing when you start off your day with negative expectations.

To say that beauty is measured by how one looks – is like saying that intelligence is measured by how one smells.

Your eyes are not the determinate of beauty Dear One, your heart is.

True beauty is not about how you look – it is about how you see.

Are you happy Dear One?

If your answer is yes, great!

We hope that you allow yourself to fully enjoy every moment of it.

But if your answer is no, you should know that feeling badly about it, being angry about it, resenting it, hating it, beating yourself up about it, raging against it, complaining about it, blaming yourself for it (or anyone else for that matter), is not going to do anything to improve the situation in any positive way.

So if that is what you have been trying up until this point, you should know that it  might be time for you to take a different approach.