Why do you so often feel as if you are in a competition Dear One?

Because you are, because you are choosing to see them as competitors, and that is not is necessarily a bad thing.

Competition can push you.  It can motivate you and inspire you, and drive you to work harder, try harder, and do your best to push yourself beyond not just how far you believe you can go, but beyond how far you believe they can go too. Competition can be a great way to get you to move beyond your own limitations, crash through self-imposed boundaries, and discover exactly what you are made of, what you are capable of.

The fact that you feel as if you are in a competition is not the problem Dear One.  The fact that you think that your ranking at the finish line matters, is.

No one can take more from you Dear One, than you willingly give to them, be it intentionally or unintentionally.

Your depletion has absolutely nothing to do with them, with their treatment of you, or their demands on you and your time, and absolutely everything to do with your treatment of you, your demands on yourself, and on your time.

If you are feeling depleted Dear One, taken advantage of, knocked around, and no longer in control of your own time and energy, look no further than the reflection in the mirror to see the face of the only one responsible for making you feel that way.

Look. Listen. Feel. Trust.

We are here Dear One.

Always.

Why are we always encouraging you to look for the best in every situation Dear One?

Because doing so feels so much better than not doing so.

And the better you feel, the better things get.

That’s why.

There is no rule anywhere Dear One, that says that you have to feel badly when dealing with a bad situation.

Yes, it’s true that you can’t always choose how you feel.

But it is also true that you can always choose what you think.

And you can choose to think a different thought, a better feeling thought, anytime that you would like.

Some may think that doing so is nothing more than an exercise in denying what is.

But we would call it, getting yourself into a better feeling place so that you can more effectively deal with what is.

We challenge you to try and find something wrong with that.

Love is not a word Dear One.

• It is an action
• It is an intention
• It is a feeling, an allowing, a way to be.
• It is an energy, an attitude, an lens through which the view the world

Love is a lot of things Dear One.

But a word is definitely not one of them.

Remember that the next time that you say it, or hear it spoken to you.

If your goal is to prolong your suffering Dear One, to make it worse, add to it, to expand upon it, and invite as many people as you possible can to join you in it, then by all means keep talking about it, thinking about it, and focusing as much energy as you possible can on it.

But if your goal is to feel better, to let it go, and to move on to something better, then you’re going to have to start talking about, thinking about, and focusing on something better.

Feeling overwhelmed Dear One?

You know there is a relatively simple solution that can help you to not feel that way anymore.

Instead of focusing your attention on feeling overwhelmed, on all of the things that are overwhelming you, focus it on feeling accomplished, empowered, balanced, peaceful, organized, capable or some other desired emotional state.

We said it was simple Dear One, we never said it was easy.

There are two ways that you can choose to respond to any situation Dear One:

• Like the victim of your circumstance
• Like the creator of your circumstance

One defines you as powerless and the other as powerful.

Which do you want to be today?

There are many things in this world that you can’t control Dear One.

Thankfully, your thoughts are not one of them.

If the thought that you are thinking right now is not making you feel better, is not bringing you joy,  is not offering you some sense of relief, we want to remind you that it is well within your power to choose another.

Some thoughts can be so overwhelming, so all encompassing, so powerful that it can be easy to forget that you are choosing them.

But make no mistake Dear One, you are.