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On: Keeping promises
Don’t allow yourself to become imprisoned by the choices, decisions and promises that you made yesterday, Dear One.
Your understanding of the world around you is constantly changing and growing. In every moment, the potential exists for you to know something new that you did not know the moment before. This new information is constantly changing your perspective – and this constantly changing perspective is a gift. Don’t throw it away simply because you “adamantly” made a decision about something yesterday.
Today, your new perspective, your current vantage point, might allow you to see something that will make yesterday’s perspective obsolete. Embrace those moments when they happen, Dear One. and allow them to change you, change your mind and change your behavior. It would be a real shame to stand in one place all of your life simply because you told someone that you would.
Don’t let your desire to be right, or loyal, or trustworthy, supersede your desire to live your life to the fullest. Don’t let the promises that you made yesterday stop you from living your life today. The truth is that the people that you made them to have changed as well. Their needs, desires and perspectives are not going to the be same forever either.
Honor yourself and your commitments as they make sense in the moment. Don’t allow yourself to be ruled by a past that is already gone or a future that does not yet exist.
On: Coping skills
Don’t’ wonder if it’s all going to be okay in the end.
Know that it will be.
Why?
Because it’s true.
And because believing it will feel a whole lot better than not believing it while you are in the process of getting there.
On: It’s not that complicated
Do you want to know how you can transform even the most complicated situation into a simple one, Dear One? We’ll tell you.
When considering all of the possible ways in which you could choose to respond, choose the simplest one, every time.
That is all there is to it!
The best and only way to create simplicity from complexity, is to choose it.
On: Your shoes
Never mind what you think anyone else would do if they were in your shoes, Dear One. Never mind what you think they would say, or how you think they would react, or what you think they would feel — Because the truth is that it will never happen. No one else ever could, ever will, be in your shoes.
You are the only one of you that there is, that there ever will be. This is your life. You are meant to experience it any way that you choose. We hope that this knowledge boosts your confidence in your ability to make the right decisions for yourself. Remember, Dear One, you are the only judge on the panel whose opinion counts.
That does not mean that you should not ask others for their help or for their opinions. In fact, we believe that doing so is very often a wise and useful thing for you to do. And we encourage it, whenever you should feel inspired to do so. There is much that you can learn from the perspective, from the experiences of others. There is a great deal of benefit to be gained from seeing the world through someone else’s eyes.
Just don’t forget, that their choices, their experiences, their decisions are just that, theirs. They were right (or wrong) for them. Learn from them, question them, consider them, but when the time comes to choose, to make a decision, your opinion, not theirs, is the only one that matters.
You are the world’s leading expert on you, Dear One.
When you allow yourself to trust yourself, you have very good judgment.
Today, we want to remind you to please remember to use it.
On: Regaining your balance
If you feel as if you have lost your balance, Dear One, if you feel as if you are having trouble getting both of your feet planted firmly on the ground, the single most important thing that you can do for yourself in this moment, is to find it again.
How can you do that?
By asking yourself the following before every step that you take, and answering it honestly:
Will this choice, will this action, will this conversation, will this program, will this meal, will this purchase, will this person, will this decision, bring me closer to achieving a state of balance in my life or carry me farther away from it?
That’s how.
On: Your purpose
Whether you are painting a picture, writing a poem, baking bread, fixing cars, teaching Spanish, selling stocks, playing the flute, designing skyscrapers, sketching tattoos, balancing spreadsheets, or a spoon on the end of your nose – what you do today, Dear One, is of so much less importance to us than how you feel while you are doing it.
On: Allowing transformation
You are not messing up, Dear One, you are letting go.
Although we can understand how you could get the two confused when you are increasingly finding yourself in unfamiliar situations, having unfamiliar experiences, with unfamiliar people, and unfamiliar emotions.
Our wish for you is that as you allow yourself to venture into the unknown that you will be brave, that you will be trusting, that you will be gentle on yourself, and that you will allow transformation to occur.
You can always choose to turn back, and resume familiar patterns, familiar behaviors, and familiar beliefs if that is what you would like.
But you already know where that path will lead you.
Before you make that choice we would like you to ask yourself, is back really where you want to go?
On: A lesson on bravery
Learning how to be brave, Dear One, is not about learning how to ignore your fears. It is not about learning how to summon up the courage to push, force, or convince yourself to do something that you are afraid to do, that you don’t think you are capable of doing.
Learning how to be brave is about learning how to listen to and trust that part of yourself that knows exactly what it is that you are capable of, that knows exactly how much you can endure, that knows exactly just how powerful, clever, resilient, valuable, and strong you are, and prioritizing that voice above every other one that is telling you otherwise.
On: Something worth worrying about
Don’t make yourself nervous worrying so much about what “they” will or do think about you, Dear One.
We can think of no greater waste of your time.
If you are really needing to make yourself nervous about something, be nervous worrying about what YOU think of you.
Because if what you think of you is not wonderful, delightful, positive, or even just mostly more good than not, then their opinion of you really is the least of your troubles.
PS
And there isn’t much you can do to change the way that they see you anyway. But there is LOTS you can do to change how you see you. And we can think of no greater use of your time than working on that.
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On: Feeling good about your decisions
If you want to start feeling better about the decisions that you are making in your life, Dear One, we have a suggestion for you:
Only make decisions that you feel good about, and stop asking other people what they think about them.