The time to compromise for others, Dear One, is not when you are feeling compromised, weak, ill, needy, or out of sorts.

That is the time for you to practice radical self-love.

And while we understand that choosing to do so may feel like the selfish choice to you, especially because it means that you are potentially letting someone else down when they need you, we can assure you, that it most definitely is not.

Choosing to practice radical self-love when you are not functioning at full strength, is actually the most selfless thing that you can do to serve the greatest good.

Why?

1. Because it will help you to heal and regain your strength as quickly as possible so that you will once again be in a position to be able to confidently and generously share your energy with those around you.
2. Because it will give them an excellent model to follow so they can begin doing the same for themselves.

Know, Dear One, that they are not better than you.

They are not more valuable, worthy, or important than you are either.

Their words, actions and beliefs are not more significant than yours.

The story of their life does not matter more than the story of yours, regardless of how they may act or what they may say.

And they are most definitely not, in any way, shape or form, more divine than you are.

They may have acquired more knowledge than you on a particular subject, they may be more practiced than you at a particular skill, they may be more educated, physically fit, or have a greater understanding of how to accumulate wealth than you do, but that just makes them different, Dear One — not better.

Remember that the next time you are feeling intimated.

Remember that in that moment instead of giving into your feelings of intimidation that you can choose to see the situation for what it really is; an opportunity for you to be inspired by or learn something new from someone who is in every way that matters– your equal.

Going back is not an option, Dear One, and standing still will get you nowhere.

So, it looks like your options really are limited after all.

Everyone makes mistakes, Dear One.

But not everyone is brave enough to take responsibility for them, learn from them, let them go, and continue on.

Are you?

Trust yourself, Dear One. Trust your heart.  Always.

We know that sometimes that can be a difficult thing for you to do, especially when you feel as though you have sufficient evidence proving that doing so in the past has gotten you into trouble, has steered you in the wrong direction.

But what if we told you, that it just wasn’t true.  What if we told you that all of those experiences that you have had trusting your heart, the ones that did not work out the way that you wanted them to, the way that you thought they would, had in fact turned out exactly the way that you needed them to.

What if we told you that?

Your heart always, always, always knows, Dear One.

Trusting it will always, always, always serve you better than not trusting it ever will.

The stronger choice, the wiser choice, the more powerful choice, Dear One, will always be the one that moves you closer to that which is wanted instead of away from that which is unwanted.

Does that help?

You have come to this place to heal this place, Dear One.

You did not do something wrong.You are not being punished.  You are not being tested.  You are not being taught a lesson.

You are being given an opportunity to heal.

Take it.

Allow yourself to relinquish control, Dear One.

Allow yourself to bond with your own heart.

Allow yourself to feel its beating.  Allow yourself to feel its wanting.  Allow yourself to feel its passion.   Allow yourself to notice its subtleties – when it is happy, or glad, or giddy, when it is questioning, when it is certain, when it is emotionless, when it is filled with joy, filled with regret, filled with sadness, filled with love.

Allow yourself to feel it all, Dear One.  Allow yourself to want more for yourself than just the absence of discomfort, the absence of pain, the absence of desire.

Please do not make it your hearts ambition to feel as little as possible, Dear One.

For that would be as great a loss as choosing to close your eyes forever after witnessing only one sunrise.