• Their breath is not your breath
• Their eyes are not your eyes
• Their skin is not your skin
• Their lips are not your lips
• Their heart is not your heart

Listen to what they have to have to say Dear One, ask for their advice, guidance, support and perspective, consider their point of view — if you think it will help.

But in the end, the experience of it will be yours and yours alone; seen by your eyes, sensed by your skin, touched by your lips, felt by your heart.

In the end, it is not about what they want for you Dear One, it’s about what you want for you – and you are the only one that can decide that.

Imagine if you can for a minute Dear One, things exactly as you want them to be.

Imagine having everything that you want, having everything that you need, having every single thing that you desire for yourself, and then some.

Are you doing it? Are you picturing it? Are you imagining what that would look like, feel like, and be like for you?

Is the thought making you smile?

Good. Keep it up.

When you are unsure Dear One, about the decision you are about to make, take a minute and ask yourself this question:

• Will this choice, will this action, will engaging in this relationship, will moving forward in this direction, will investing my energy here, serve my greatest good?

And then don’t think about the answer, listen for it instead, and then you will know.

If your body is telling you that it needs some time off Dear One, take it.

Trust us when we tell you that you will be so much better off choosing to do so now while the choice is still yours to make.

Regardless of how scared you are Dear One, how out of control, lost or chaotic you feel, how far off course you think you have traveled, you are and will always only ever be one choice, one breath, one thought away from your center.

Always.

Feeling badly, indulging in feelings of guilt, remorse or regret for choosing to take care of yourself Dear One, is like indulging in a hot fudge Sunday as a reward for eating less sugar.

You don’t need our help to get past this one.  What you need is reassurance that it is OK, essential even, for you to make yourself the priority in your own life.

And you’ve got it!

Now the only question that remains is, are you going to grant yourself the permission to believe it?

The moment that you decide that you are ready to embrace order in your life Dear One, your life will begin to become orderly.

Why?

Because once you decide, once you become certain of what it is that you want, your attitude, your choices, your actions, and  your behaviors will all begin to support that decision.

Once you decide Dear One, you will seek out, choose, create and attract order over chaos.

The hard part is not creating what you want.

The hard part is deciding what it is that you really want to create.

Know Dear One, that they are not better than you.

They are not more valuable, worthy, or important than you are either.

Their words, actions and beliefs are not more significant than yours are.

The story of their life does not matter more than the story of yours, regardless of how they may act, or what they may say.

And they are most definitely not, in any way, shape or form, more divine than you are.

They may have acquired more knowledge than you on a particular subject, they may have become more practiced than you at a particular skill, they may be more educated, physically fit, or have a greater understanding of how to accumulate wealth than you do, but that just makes them different Dear One, not better.

Remember that the next time you are feeling intimated by someone else’s success or achievement.

Remember in that moment that instead of giving into your feelings of intimidation that you can always choose to see the situation for what it really is; an opportunity for you to be inspired by or learn something new from someone who is in every way that matters– your equal.

What if you chose with your heart today Dear One, instead of with your head?

What if you really did it, instead of just thinking about it?

What do you think would happen?

Are you brave enough to find out?

When the choices you are committed to don’t seem to be leading you towards a better feeling state Dear One, it may be time for you to start thinking about making different ones.