In one form or another, Dear One, this question seems to come up for you a lot.

• What is the meaning of this?
• What was the meaning of that?
• What does it all mean?

And no matter how many different ways you ask the question, the answer is always going to be the same.

The meaning is always going to be whatever you decide that it is.

What it means to you, Dear One, can only be determined by you, and nobody else.

So may we suggest that the next time the question arises, that you ask yourself this instead:

• What meaning am I going to choose to give to this?

Doing so will ensure that you always have a definite answer to your question and, it will spare you from experiencing a great deal of unnecessary uncertainty waiting for an answer.

The universe is taking its lead from you, Dear One.

The moment that you decide that your health, your well-being, your piece of mind, and your happiness, are your top priorities – it will prioritize them for you too.

• Their breath is not your breath
• Their eyes are not your eyes
• Their skin is not your skin
• Their lips are not your lips
• Their heart is not your heart

Listen to what they have to have to say, Dear One, ask for their advice, guidance, support and perspective, consider their point of view — if you think it will help.

But in the end, the experience of it will be yours and yours alone; seen by your eyes, sensed by your skin, touched by your lips, felt by your heart.

In the end, it is not about what they want for you Dear One, it’s about what you want for you – and you are the only one that can decide that.

Why choose to doubt yourself, punish yourself, be hard on yourself, judge yourself, or skimp on yourself, Dear One, when you can choose to comfort yourself, forgive yourself, have confidence in yourself,  be generous with yourself, and love yourself instead?

Avoidance or Creation.

Which path are you going to choose to take today, Dear One?

Are you going to make this day about doing your best to avoid that which you do not want to see, hear, feel, or experience, or about creating that which you do?

Choose wisely because these two paths extend out in opposite directions from one another, and will most definitely not lead you to the same place.

If someone is not living up to your expectations of them, Dear One, instead of being disappointed, instead of trying to change them, instead of trying to fix them, instead of trying to force yourself to not care in order to put an end to your unhappiness, why not simply change your expectation of them instead?

Now, wouldn’t that be easier?

The moment that you decide that you are ready to embrace order in your life, Dear One, your life will begin to become orderly.

Why?

Because once you decide, once you become certain of what it is that you want, your attitude, your choices, your actions, and  your behaviors will all begin to support that decision.

Once you decide, Dear One, you will seek out, choose, create and attract order over chaos.

The hard part is not creating what you want.

The hard part is deciding what it is that you really want to create.

If you are being asked to choose, Dear One, which answer do you think will serve you best?

A:  Hold on to your plans

B:  Live your life

Only an open heart can heal, Dear One.

You have no obligation to anyone, Dear one, that will ever be more important than your obligation to yourself.