Life does not always go according to plan Dear One.

Plan for that.

Count on it.

Decide ahead of time that you are going to be OK with falling off course – look forward to it even, so that when it happens, you are ready to enthusiastically, and excitedly embrace the opportunity and everything that comes along with it.

Remember – it’s the journey that counts.  You are not in search of a destination.  You are in search of new experiences.   And what better way to find something new, that you have never experienced before then to venture down a path that you have never ventured down before, that you didn’t even know was there.

What an enormous waste of your precious time to spend even one more minute of it wondering  “what if” Dear One.  Who cares about what could have been?  It didn’t happen!  It wasn’t!  All of the wondering in the world is never going to change that – ever – regardless of how much of yourself you choose to sacrifice to the idol of regret.

What a shame it would be to miss out on something really fantastically wonderful in the moment because you were wasting your time looking backwards at your past.

It’s time to let go of the disappointment.  It’s time to let go of the notion that you lost out or missed out on something.  Because you haven’t.  Trust us.  Everything that is meant to be, will be.

Let it go – release yourself from the prison of “what if” and join us once again in the present moment of “what is”.  You’re the only one that can free yourself.  You are the only one with key.  Use it.  We promise you, you won’t be sorry that you did.

Everyone is looking for/striving for/seeking beauty Dear One – Every single one of you, with no exception.  

The only problem is that more often than not, so many of you find yourself coming up short, frustrated with your search, not finding what you are looking for – left with the impression that beauty is rare or elusive.  Why?  Because many of you have no idea what beauty really is – so you look in all the wrong places, chase down all the wrong things trying to find it or create it.

Beauty is a feeling, an emotion, an energy.  It is the essence of who you are.  It is a state of openness, a state of trust and allowing, acceptance of the universe, of what is.  It is not flat abs and a shiny full head of hair.  It is not pouty lips, smooth tight skin or perfectly manicured nails .  Those things are all nothing more than limited physical attributes of the body.  True beauty is limitless.

To say that beauty is measured by how one looks – is like saying that intelligence is measured by how one smells.

Your eyes are not the determinate of beauty Dear One, your heart is.

True beauty is not about how you look – it is about how you see.

Choose to see beauty in everything around you Dear One and  you will.  It is there. It is built into everything.   As soon as you start looking for it, with your heart, you will find it and be in awe of its abundance.

May we suggest that you start with you.

Today is the day Dear One, to stop asking for permission – to stop waiting for permission and begin behaving like the powerful, divine creator/divine spirit that you are.

This is your journey, to do with as you please.

So… what are you going to do with it?

Hypocrisy: To say one thing and do another.  There are very few people in this world that are not hypocrites at one time or another Dear One.  And to this we say  BRAVO!  There are so many of you that say and talk about things that you wish you did, that you are wanting to do, but have not yet made not even the slightest effort to do them, and to this we say – OK.

Because we know it is coming.  We know that so often talking about a thing precedes actually doing a thing.  So if there are things you want to do, or beliefs you want to adopt, or causes you wish you were behind, we say – go for it – talk about them as if you are already doing them – Act as if you are virtuous if you want to be – Act as if you are loyal even if you are not yet.  Act as if you are charitable even if your actions don’t yet match up with the sentiments – because if the intention is there and the desire is there then the action just might follow.

Don’t be so quick to judge another for what they have said and not yet done Dear One.  Look instead at a person’s accomplishments, their successes, their virtues and if you must judge them, judge them based on those events.  Judge them based on the best in them not on the worst in them.

Raise the roof on the possibilities that exist for them in their lives.  Because as you know from experience, the expectations of others can and does have an influence on their behavior.   So, if your expectations are going to have an influence on those around you, wouldn’t you rather that your influence be a positive one instead of a negative one?

So if you feel you must judge, we say go right ahead and judge – but don’t judge people based on the worst of them – make your judgments instead based on the very best of them – after-all isn’t that what you are hoping you will be judged on?

It is OK to miss someone Dear One.  It is simply an indication of a space being open now inside of you where once it was filled.

You can choose to hold that space open and keep it void of something new for as long as you want.  But you should know that holding open an empty space in a universe that is fluid and full will require a great deal of effort – and could result in a great deal of heartbreak.

But in contrast to this – to missing – know that this space will not remain empty for long, if you don’t want it to.  The universe fills spaces.  It is one of the things that it does quite well – with elegance, grace and ease.  It will fill up the space with something wonderful, if you ask it to, if you will allow it to.

It’s OK to miss Dear One.  It’s OK to continue to hold on and remember.  But please don’t choose to spend too much time with you attention on the absence of what was.

When you are ready, choose instead to focus you attention on those thoughts, feeling and memories that bring you joy, that make you feel good, that bring a smile to your heart and to your lips.  And as you allow your energy to shift, allow yourself to start to get excited about what is yet to come –  about what is headed your way – right this very minute.  Because If you are looking forward to it with joy, love and excitement in your heart and a smile on your face – you can be sure that  when it get here, it is going to be oh so very good.

Faith is faith Dear One.   Either you have it or you don’t .

You can’t have just a little bit of faith.  It really is an all or nothing type of thing.

So, which is it?

Do you want to wade out in the river of life slowly Dear One or do you want to jump in feet first?

You can take it fast or you can take it slow.  It depends entirely on the experiences that you are looking to have.  There is no need to rush.  You need not be in a hurry, as there will be time enough for you to get to it all – you are eternal after all.  And there is no need for you to take your time either.  Big jumps and big changes cause big splashes and great leaps can be great fun too.   What matters most is your experience of each.

Fast or slow – the choice is entirely yours.

We just want to encourage you to get off the shore, get wet and keep moving forward – at whatever pace brings you the greatest amount of joy.    

You must be willing to let go and allow change happen Dear One if you truly want to have an experience of change in your life.

Hoping, wishing and praying alone are just not going to do it.  If you want it, you have to allow it.

How can you expect to experience movement if you are resistant to it – if you are holding on to that which is known, familiar and comfortable to you, as tightly as you can with both hands?

Only the truly brave are able to recognize their misjudgments, learn from them, forgive themselves and continue on with their journey – whole – without leaving a  piece of themselves behind – without paying the price of regret.

Regret is an easy emotion to embrace.  Costly, but easy.  It serves to keep you rooted in the past, attached to a moment that has come and gone.  It maintains the familiar, regardless of how uncomfortable, painful or damaging it may be.

But Forgiveness – Forgiveness takes courage because it moves you beyond what is known to you, beyond what is familiar to you. Forgiveness releases – allows – heals.  It serves you in the present and frees you from emotions, thoughts and connections that are keeping you tethered to the past, be it 5 years ago, 5 days ago or 5 minutes ago.

Regret holds on, and keeps you in one place.  Forgiveness releases, and allows you to move forward.

Are you feeling brave today Dear One?  Are you ready to let go?