Building up your defenses Dear One, putting up a wall, is one way that you can try and protect yourself from the world. But you should know that is far from the best or most effective way to do so.

Cutting yourself off, hiding yourself away, indulging in suspicion, fear, doubt, anger, and defensiveness are all actions that will, above all else, only serve to weaken you over time.  The more you indulge in them, the more they will wear you down, the more disconnected you will feel, the more vulnerable you will be.

If you really want to protect yourself Dear One, you’ve got to the do the exact opposite. You’ve got to open yourself up, trust, let life in. You’ve got to make new connections, build up your confidence, and allow yourself to joyfully engage with the world.

If you feel as if you really need protection Dear One, build bridges not walls.

Make feeling good the order of the day today Dear One.

And make all of your decisions accordingly.

If, for some reason, from where you are standing, feeling good feels like too much of a stretch for you, then make a decision to march towards feeling better instead.

But in either case remember Dear One, that the direction that you move in will be the direction that you choose.

Don’t wait until you’ve got everything else under control Dear One, before you start taking better care of yourself, before you start making yourself a priority, before you start spending your time doing more of what you love.

Those people over there, the ones you are envious of, the happy ones, the rested ones, the ones that are feeling good, enjoying themselves, having a great time doing all of the things that they love to do…. they didn’t wait.

And that, Dear One, is the only difference between them and you.

The point of seeking out a loving relationship is not to find someone who will love you so that you can have love in your life, so that you can have an experience of being loved. You don’t need someone to love you in order to have love in your life. You are already loved, totally, completely, deeply, and eternally.

The point Dear One, of seeking out a loving relationship is that it can teach you how to open yourself up to love, to let more love in, to let more love flow to you and through you. The right relationship will inspire you to open yourself up and allow you to experience more of the love that is already available to you.

Pay attention Dear One, to how they make you feel, to what feelings they inspire within you.

If being in their company inspires you to feel good, if it inspires confidence, bravery, curiosity, kindness, and love, then do so as much as you possibly can.

But, if being in their company, if spending time with them inspires you to feel badly about yourself, inspires you to feel suspicion, insecurity, uncertainty, inequality, and doubt, then regardless of how much love they say they have for you, what’s the point if being with them does not allow you to feel it?

Do you think that you can commit to make seeking out, creating, and experiencing joy your top priority today Dear One?

Or did you have something else in mind?

You can choose to believe that you can handle it all Dear One, or you can choose to believe that you can’t.

Whichever choice you make, you’ll be right.

So, what’s it going to be?

Why should you forgive, open your heart, and allow yourself to love again Dear One?

Because doing so can feel sooooooo good.

That’s why.

If you feel as if you have been looking everywhere for love Dear One, and that it is constantly eluding you, we may be able to shed some light onto the subject of why your search has yielded no lasting results.

Love is not something that you search for, it is something that you allow.

Try changing your approach, try changing the way that you think about love, and we are certain that you will begin to see a change in your results as well.

When you think you’ve lost it all Dear One, when you believe that you’ve got nothing left, remember this:

You’ve always got a choice.

We would like you to practice kindness today Dear One.

We would like you to remember to be kind to yourself in response to all that you do, without exception

That is all.