You are not in this alone Dear One.

But you alone, are the only one who can change it.

If you want things to be different, if you want a different life, different circumstances, different stuff, you’re going to have to start choosing differently.

You are absolutely the only one who can.

You can’t punish yourself for making a mistake, misjudgment, or misstep Dear One, and come back into alignment, return to your flow, make it right again, at the same time.

You’re going to have to choose, one or the other.

You’re going to have to decide which is more important to you, returning to well-being and restoring balance, or remaining self-critical.

What’s it going to be?

As you already know very well from experience Dear One, trying to stand still in the constantly flowing river of life creates resistance, and requires so much more effort than trusting, letting go, and allowing yourself to go with the flow does.

When you see that they are hurting, when you see that they are struggling, when you see that they are lost, confused, or in pain and you want to help, but don’t know how — Love them Dear One.

There is no more useful thing that you can do.

We know that sometimes love does not seem like it’s enough, but trust us, it is.

Love heals. Love inspires. Love transforms.  Love can do a great many things.

• Don’t pity them
• Don’t fear for them
• Don’t be sad for them
• Don’t join them in their grief

See them as well.  See them as whole.  See them as prosperous.  See them as confident.  See them as happy.  See them as healed.  See them as the person that they want to be in this moment.  Hold an image of them in your mind and in your heart that they are not yet able to hold for themselves.

You can’t give your attention to their pain, to their struggle, to their problem, or their grief, and hope to be a part of their solution Dear One.

If you really want to help, if you really want to make a difference,  keep seeing the best in them, and for them and just keep loving them.

It truly is the best and most useful thing that you can do.

Right this minute, imagine Dear One, things exactly the way that you want them to be.

Are you doing it?

Are you smiling?

Good.

We think that it’s time you started holding yourself more accountable for your actions Dear One.

Celebrate your victories.  Acknowledge your accomplishments.  Praise your successes.  Honor your abilities.  Each and every one of them, big and small, everyday.

When you don’t, when you dismiss them, belittle them, or simply gloss right over them and immediately shift your attention instead to that which remains undone, to that which you have not yet achieved, not yet completed, or not yet mastered, you are doing yourself a great disservice.  Not only are you cheating yourself out of a wonderful experience, but you are tossing aside a potentially life changing moment.

Stop doing that.

One good feeling is all it takes to turn anything around.

Celebrate, acknowledge, praise and honor your accomplishments today Dear One.  It is the surest thing that you can do for yourself to guarantee that there will be more of them tomorrow.

Regret is an easy emotion to latch on to and embrace Dear One.  Costly, but easy.

It serves to keep you rooted, in the past, attached to a moment that has come and gone.
It maintains the familiar, regardless of how uncomfortable, painful or damaging it may be.

But Forgiveness is hard. Forgiveness takes courage because it moves you beyond where you are, beyond what is known to you, beyond what is familiar to you.

Forgiveness releases – allows – heals – requires you to trust, love, and let go.  It serves to bring you back into the present and frees you from emotions, thoughts, and connections that are keeping you tethered to the past, be it 5 years ago, 5 days ago or 5 minutes ago.

Regret holds on, binds you, and keeps you cemented in one place.

Forgiveness releases, frees you, and allows you to move ahead.

So now you know.

You are here to have an experience of being alive Dear One.

You can’t get it wrong.  You simply cannot.   Just like you can’t order the wrong flavor of ice cream.  No flavor is wrong.  Each flavor is just different.

The more you order – the more flavors you will get a chance to taste –  the more you will discover what your personal preferences are.  Some flavors you will like, some you will love, and some you will discover that you don’t like much at all.

But with each choice Dear One, you are learning.

As long as you keep choosing, as long as you continue to taste all that you want to taste, and allow yourself to continue to have new experiences, you can’t get it wrong.  We promise you that.

You now officially have one less thing to worry about!