They are not the reason you are exhausted Dear One.

You are.  You are exhausting yourself by trying to please them, by choosing to prioritize them and their needs above your own.

They are not the ones to blame here.  You are doing this all by yourself.

And you can choose to stop doing it anytime that you would like.

So you want to know how to do it all Dear One?

One bright, beautiful, deliberate, trusting, bold, loving, confident, compassionate, grateful, joyful step at a time.

There truly is no other way.

Do you know what is guiding you Dear One?  Do you know what the desire is that is motivating you to make the choices that you make?

Is it trust, love, a desire to create, connect, to be happy, to be strong, to know joy?

Or is it a desire for security, safety, acceptance, belonging, recognition, attention, or relief?

It is important that you know because before you can change, before you can create more of what it is that you want for yourself, you need to first be aware of what that is.  And know this; figuring out your desires, what it is that you want to create more of in your life is very different than figuring out what is it you want to avoid.

• A desire to avoid heartbreak is not the same as wanting more love in your life.
• A desire for less illness is not the same as wanting better health
• A desire to avoid poverty is not the same as wanting greater wealth
• A desire to feel less lonely is not the same as wanting more companionship
• A desire for less stress is not the same as wanting more time, energy, contentment, or peace of mind
• A desire for less fatigue is not the same as wanting more endurance so you can do, be, have, or accomplish all that you want.

The steps, actions, feelings, and mindset required for you to create one are dramatically different than what is required for you to create the other.

All of the attention in the world focused on a contrasting goal is not ever going to bring you any closer to attaining it, no matter how hard you try, how badly you want it, or how much you think you deserve it.

Now you know, now you aware.

Now what?

Want some help learning how to forgive Dear One?

Experience is the best teacher.

Forgive yourself.

Start there.

Choose well-being as your desired destination today Dear One, and let trust be the vehicle that gets you there.

The trouble Dear One is that you think that you live in a world of absolutes. And you don’t. The world does not work that way. There are no absolutes in life – except one.

The one thing that you can always absolutely rely on is the fact that you will always have a choice. Always, always, always do you have options, in every single situation. Every one – without fail.

Whenever you feel frustrated, helpless, trapped or as if you are moving in the wrong direction – stop and remind yourself that there are choices available to you in that moment. If the thoughts that you are thinking are not bringing you joy – choose different ones. If the company that you are keeping is not pleasurable for you – change it. If you have set standards for yourself that you consistently find yourself falling short of, and feeling badly about, change them.

It can be just that simple Dear One, if you choose to allow it to be so.

Open your heart Dear One – Not so that you can let love in from somewhere outside of you.  We want you to open your heart and look within for the love that you already hold within you –   that you are made up of – that you are.

Open your heart and let that love out.  Let it flow through you and from you out into the world.  You are the source Dear One, that you are longing to connect with/re-connect with.   The light of the universe, of all that it is, shines through you.

Live your life from the inside out.  Shine your brightest.  Let the light of who you are radiate out of you and fall on anyone within its reach.

Live from the inside out, for within you is more than you will ever need, more than you could ever conceive of, more than you will ever fully know/realize until you open up to it.

Live from the inside out and you will never know from a shortage of love, or connection to source again.

Shine Dear One.

The sunrise brings brilliant, magnificent, inspiring beauty into the lives of all those who are willing to wake-up and open their eyes early enough in the morning to see it.

You should know that in much the same way, this day holds a great many brilliant, magnificent, inspiring and beautiful surprises for you Dear One, if you are willing to wake-up, open your eyes up and see them.

Know this Dear One, with absolute certainty — whatever it is, whatever is going on, whatever you are struggling with, whatever you have to fix, manage, resolve, clean up, heal, or eliminate — there IS a gentle solution to it available to you at all times.

So now that you know this, now that you no longer have to wonder, relax, take a deep breath, trust, open your mind and your heart, and allow yourself to see it.