Choose to love yourself first Dear One, and show them how it’s done.

We can think of no more powerful gift that you could give them today then to help them to know the experience, the joy, the potential, the pleasure of self-love/self-care.

We would like you to practice kindness today Dear One.

We would like for you to remember to be kind to yourself in response to all that you do and don’t do, and all that happens to you and those around you.

Without exception.

That is all.

We want to make this as simple for you as we possibly can, Dear One.

Forgiveness has absolutely, positively, nothing what so ever to do with them.

It is simply the act of releasing your connection to something that no longer serves you,  releasing your bond with something that you no longer want to remain connected to.

It is letting go of the rope that is dragging you, removing your hand from the hot stove that is burning you, abandoning the sinking ship.

Avoidance or Creation.

Which path are you going to choose to take today Dear One?

Are you going to make this day about doing your best to avoid that which you do not want to see, hear, feel, or experience, or about creating that which you do?

Choose wisely because these two paths extend out in opposite directions from one another, and will most definitely not lead you to the same place.

Is understanding enough?

Absolutely not, Dear One. Understanding alone is not enough.

But understanding is an essential first step.

So, keep seeking, searching, and asking questions.

In time, your understanding will impact your beliefs, and your beliefs will impact your actions, and your actions will impact the ease with which you allow change to occur in your life.

With understanding Dear One, comes trust, and ease, and access to powerful resources that are just waiting for you to call upon them, or pick them up and use them.

The more you understand for example, that airplanes are a safe, the more likely you are to allow yourself to use one as a mode of transportation to carry you anywhere in the world that you want to go.

Understanding does not magically create solutions.  But it does allow you to recognize them when they are in front of you, and helps teach you how to find them, create them, and use them once you do.

Understanding alone does not change anything Dear One, but it does give you access to all the things you will need to be able to change everything.

Why choose to doubt yourself, punish yourself, be hard on yourself, judge yourself, or skimp on yourself Dear One, when you can choose to comfort yourself, forgive yourself, have confidence in yourself,  be generous with yourself, and love yourself instead?

This is how it works.

Peaceful thoughts, peaceful words, peaceful actions, and peaceful beliefs lead to a peaceful day.

So, what kind of day would you like for yourself today, Dear One?

Whatever your answer, make sure that your thoughts, words, actions, and beliefs reflect it, and it will be so.

If you want things to be different Dear One, you’ve got to begin to choose differently.

It really is the only way.

It is OK to miss them Dear One.  It is simply an indication of a space being open now inside of you where once it was filled.

You can choose to hold that space open and keep it void of something new for as long as you want.  But you should know that holding open an empty space in a universe that is fluid and full will require a great deal of effort – and could result in a great deal of heartbreak.

But in contrast to this – to missing – know that this space will not remain empty for long, if you don’t want it to.  The universe fills spaces.  It is one of the things that it does quite well – with elegance, grace and ease.  It will fill up the space with something wonderful, if you ask it to, if you will allow it to.

It’s OK to miss Dear One.  It’s OK to continue to hold on and remember.  But please don’t choose to spend too much time with you attention on the absence of what was.

When you are ready, choose instead to focus you attention on those thoughts, feeling and memories that bring you joy, that make you feel good, that bring a smile to your heart and to your lips.  And as you allow your energy to shift, allow yourself to start to get excited about what is yet to come –  about what is headed your way – right this very minute.  Because If you are looking forward to it with joy, love and excitement in your heart and a smile on your face – you can be sure that  when it gets here, it is going to be oh so very good.

Friend, boyfriend, lover, wife, spouse, partner, neighbor, sister, brother, cousin, best friend, confidant, significant other, soul mate, buddy, companion, associate, cohort or chum. 

You have lots of ways of defining, categorizing and labeling your relationships Dear One.  And we realize that these measures can be greatly varied, intricately complicated, highly emotional, and hold a great deal of significance for you.   We know that they strongly influence and in some cases totally determine how you act towards someone, how you think, feel and react around them, and your expectations of them.   We get it. We really do understand.

But from where we are standing there truly is only one measure by which all relationships are defined, categorized and labeled — and that measure Dear One, is the amount of love shared.

As we see it, how you choose to define a relationship is so much less significant than the amount of love that you choose to bring to it and allow yourself to experience within it.

So, what is in a name Dear One?

As far as we are concerned, as long as there is love there, not a whole hell of a lot.