Create from an angry, frustrated, stressed out, fearful place, Dear One, and no matter how hard you work, how hard you try, how good your intentions are, the very best that you are ever going to be able to do is create more of the same.

You can’t make an apple pie with peaches.

Make sense?

You have been blessed with a great many gifts, Dear One.

We implore you to please remember to use them.

They serve a far greater purpose than you might be aware of.

If you are not yet sure what yours gifts may be, we would be happy to help you to figure it out.

You can do so by answering these questions:

• What it is that you do, that you can do, that brings you joy and connects you with others?
• What is it that you do, that you can do that brings others joy and an opportunity to connect, with you, with themselves, with each other, with their community, with their bodies, with their spirits, with their passions, with their emotions, with the natural world, etc..?

When you figure out your answers, you will have discovered what your gifts are.

A gift, Dear One is anything that you are able to do that creates joy and encourages connection in your world.

Your gifts Dear One, are the channel through which joy and connection are created.

Without them, without you, countless joys and connections would never exist.

You are the creator of joy, of connection in this world, and your gifts are the tools of the trade.

So we will say to you once again:

You have been blessed with a great many gifts, Dear One.

We implore you to please remember to use them.

Keep looking ahead Dear One, no matter what.

Where you are going matters so much more than where you have been.

There are three things that you should know about guilt Dear One:

• No one can make you feel guilty. Feeling guilty is a choice that only you can make for yourself.

•  Guilt’s greatest function is to serve as an anchor that holds you in a position of weakness.

•  The quickest way to relieve yourself from guilt is by taking responsibility, by shifting yourself from a position of weakness to one of authority over your own life.

You know you don’t have to try so hard to be nice, agreeable, and accommodating to others Dear One if you are not feeling nice, agreeable, and accommodating.

Yes, of course you always want to do your best to be respectful, courteous, and compassionate to those around you, but know that there is no less courteous an act then that of being inauthentic, false or phony.

Don’t pretend to like something that you don’t.  Don’t pretend to agree when you disagree.  Don’t pretend to be interested when you are not. Especially if you are doing so out of a sense of respect.  Because we can assure you Dear One, that there is nothing respectful about being disingenuous, deceptive, or fake.

While you are the process of learning something new Dear One, it is not the right time to be hard on yourself.

It is the time to be kind, loving, patient, forgiving, encouraging, nurturing, compassionate, and generous with yourself.

And since you are pretty much in the process of learning something new all the time…..

The right time to be hard on yourself, is, well, never.

You can never undo that which has been done, Dear One.

It’s impossible.

So please don’t waste your precious time and energy trying.

Once you have had an experience, for better or for worse, it is yours forever.

And regardless of how deeply you wish it could be so, no amount of regret, guilt, remorse, anger, self-pity, self-loathing, sadness, or hatred is ever going to change that.

But know this, that you are never without options, that there is always something that you can do.

It is always within your power Dear One, to change the way that you feel about it, to change what it means to you, to change its significance in your life.

And changing that, changes everything.

• There is no race that you must win Dear One.
• There is no pinnacle that you must reach
• There is no amount that you must accumulate
• There is no title that you must earn
• There is no level of notoriety that you must achieve
• There is only a life for you to live.

And success in this life is totally and completely determined by the amount of joy that you experience while living it.

We can see how hard you have been working Dear One.

Are you successful yet?

If you want to start feeling better about the decisions that you are making in your life Dear One, stop asking other people for their opinions about them.

You are here to have a personal experience of you, not a duplicate experience of someone else. There is no one that can ever know what is best for you better than you can.

Trust yourself a little bit more, your gut, your instincts and act accordingly. Make conscious decisions that make sense to you and soon you will find yourself living in a reality that is much more you then ever before.

What do you see/feel when you look around you Dear One? Do you see the life that you want for yourself unfolding before your eyes, or do you see someone else’s version of the perfect reality?

Give yourself some time to adjust to the fact that you are the creator of your own reality if you need to. But start trusting yourself and making decisions based on your desires, your experiences and your instincts right away.  There is no reason at all for you to wait.  Note how each decision makes you feel so that you can learn more about yourself and your preferences with each one that you make.

Forgive them for their mistakes Dear One, their shortcomings, their faults, their ignorance, and their impatience.

Forgive their actions when they react out of fear, their words when they respond from pain, their behaviors when they get defensive, and their callousness when they are cruel.

They are not perfect. They are deeply flawed. They are hurting, healing, learning, and coping the best way that they know how. Believe it or not, they are actually doing the very best that they believe that they are capable of.

They are imperfect Dear One – just like you.

Forgive them without expectation, without condition, without question and without hesitation.

Why?

Because doing so is one of the most powerful healing gifts that you can give to yourself.