On: Forgiving yourself
Forgive yourself Dear One, now, for whatever it is.
Why?
Because you can’t beat yourself up and heal, make amends, or move forward in any positive or useful way until you do.
That’s why
Forgive yourself Dear One, now, for whatever it is.
Why?
Because you can’t beat yourself up and heal, make amends, or move forward in any positive or useful way until you do.
That’s why
So many of you keep asking us and yourselves “What went wrong?”
When things don’t go according to plan, when things don’t turn out as expected, when things don’t go as desired, as you hoped they would, as you wanted them to, as you needed them to, the first thing you very often ask when the dust begins to settle is “What did I do wrong?”
And we can tell you Dear One. We have the answer to that question.
Here it is: You did absolutely nothing wrong.
How do we know? How can we say for sure?
Because there is no such thing as right or wrong. Right or wrong are judgments. There is only connection or disconnection, allowing or resistance, living your life with an open heart or a closed one.
That is all.
So the next time that things go awry, in a very small inconsequential way, or in a very large and significant way, instead asking yourself “What did I do wrong?”, trying asking yourself this: Did I choose connection or disconnection? Did I choose allowing or resistance? Did I choose with an open heart or a closed one?
Do that Dear One, and what you will end up with will not be a list of judgements against yourself, a list of your faults, mistakes, bad decisions, or weakness. But you will end up with is a list of insightful, useful, positive, hopeful and actionable solutions instead.
Only an open heart can heal, Dear One.
There can be no brighter future ahead Dear One, if you don’t allow more light into your present.
The very best thing that you can do to create a better tomorrow for yourself is to find something to be happy about today.
If you don’t already know the answers to these questions, do yourself a favor and spend a little time figuring them out.
Why?
Because 100% of your experience in this life is dependent on it.
HINT:
The answers you are seeking have absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with who they think you are, what they think you are capable of, or what they believe is possible for you.
You can’t force change Dear One, upon yourself or anyone else.
You (they) will change only when you (they) are inspired to do so. When you (they) believe that doing so will be to your (their) greatest advantage, to your (their) greatest benefit.
That is why people can and do endure the pain, discomfort and effort that can sometimes accompany change.
Not because they like it, not because they enjoy it, not because it is easy for them, not because they believe that they should or have something to prove.
They do it Dear One, because they know that doing so is going to serve them.
Enduring pain and discomfort on an inspired path to change is an empowering and joyful experience. It builds strength, endurance, and confidence.
Enduring pain and discomfort in the name of change when it is forced upon you, by yourself or by someone else, without a solid belief or knowing that it is for your greatest good, is a depleting experience . It only serves to weaken you, frustrate you, discourage you, and contribute to greater imbalance in your life.
That Dear One, is why you shouldn’t force it.
Act courageously today Dear One; say what you think, do what you feel, honor your heart, act on its behalf.
And then celebrate the fact that you have done so – regardless of the outcome.
This is not a practice designed to get you to take bigger strides, its an exercise to help you feel good about consciously making more authentic ones.
“Show me all that is possible that will serve the greatest good of us all.”
Recite these words Dear One, recite this powerful prayer, let is resonate in your heart, only if you are really ready to see, only if you are really ready for the answer.
Because once you know, once the veil of ignorance is lifted, there is no going back.
Taking care of yourself Dear One; caring for your physical, emotional, and energetic body, allowing yourself to experience joy, to feel good, to be happy, healthy, and at ease, maintaining your connection to source, well-being, spirit, light, God, whatever you choose to call it, is one of the most powerful acts of self-care that there is.
And anything that you do, say, create, engage in, or give your attention to that does not honor, maintain, or strengthen that connection, in our eyes, in an act of self-neglect.
The moment that you decide that you and your needs, wants, and desires are a priority Dear One, the universe will too.