When in doubt Dear One, when you don’t what it is that you need to do next to get you to where you want to be, and you are feeling lost, angry, frustrated, or alone as a result, here is what we would like you to do:

• Go and find a comfortable place and sit
• Allow yourself to get calm and still and comfortable
• Pick a thought, any thought, that makes you feel better, and think it
• Keep thinking that thought until you start to feel better, even if it is only just a little bit
• Then pick another thought that makes you happy
• Keep thinking that thought until it makes you smile
• And once you are smiling Dear One, once you sitting comfortably, calm, still and smiling, we want you to stay in that spot and continue to do so for as long as you possible can.

That is all.

Because with a happy thought in your head Dear One, and a smile on your lips, there is little else that you could do that would be more helpful, more useful, more effective, or more productive towards attracting to you everything that you are wanting for yourself.

Guilt serves to accomplish only two things Dear One;

• Inflict punishment onto yourself
• Inflict punishment onto another

That’s it.  Nothing more.

Guilt does not absolve you of anything.

It solves nothing. It heals nothing. It changes nothing.

When it comes to dealing with feelings of guilt Dear One, you really have only two choices;

• Forgive yourself
• Don’t forgive yourself

While you are deciding which is the right choice for you, keep this in mind – you will never be able to punish yourself, or anyone else enough to undo that which has been done, – and with forgiveness, all things are possible.

Leaping and being pushed are two completely different experiences Dear One.

A friend that encourages you to leap is a good friend indeed.

A friend that pushes you over the edge, with or without your consent, is no friend at all.

When exiting a comfort zone Dear One, you should always do so by choice, by your own free will.

Leaping and being pushed do not both land you in the same place.

Remember that.

Why struggle, when you can trust Dear One?

Why pretend when you can be yourself?

Why fight when you can accomplish so much more by allowing?

Why be hard on yourself, when you can choose to be loving, caring, nurturing, and supportive of yourself instead?

You can’t stop all hurts from ever reaching you Dear One, but you can stop making them worse for yourself when they do.

[A PERSONAL NOTE: No matter how many times I am reminded of this one, when I am hurting, I need to be reminded again.And today, i am grateful for the reminder, once again.]

When you are hurting Dear One, when you are in pain, please remember this; you have come to this place to heal this place.

You did not end up here because you did something wrong. You did not end up here because you are being punished. You did not end up here because you are being tested, tortured, or asked to prove yourself.

You ended up here Dear One, for one reason and one reason only, because you are being given an opportunity to heal.

It is understandable Dear One, for you to fear change, for you to be frightened, nervous, or hesitant about the idea of moving from what is known to what is unknown.

But what if we told you that by moving forward, and embracing change, you would actually be doing the exact opposite.

What if we told you that by pursuing your passions, trusting your instincts, taking the leap, and letting change in, you would be stepping back into a very familiar place, a place that is more you than any other place could be, a place that is made up of the energy that created you, that you were born into, and have spent all of eternity in.

The truth is Dear One, that more you trust yourself, the more you let go, the more you allow yourself to follow your heart and to change, to move from what is known to what is unknown, the more at home you will feel, the more at home you will be.

People make mistakes, Dear One (yourself included).  It happens.

Berating them for it, making them feel badly about it, attempting to scold or punish them for it, is not going to help, fix, or undo it,  is not going serve anyone or anything in any positive way.

Bitching, complaining, ranting, raving, and acting out, while it may feel good and appropriate in the moment, will not help them or you to turn things around, or improve the situation at all.

But, focusing your attention and energy on the desired outcome, on identifying a solution, on making things better, on how to improve things from here,  will.

• Their breath is not your breath
• Their eyes are not your eyes
• Their skin is not your skin
• Their lips are not your lips
• Their heart is not your heart

Listen to what they have to have to say Dear One, ask for their advice, guidance, support and perspective, consider their point of view — if you think it will help.

But in the end, the experience of it will be yours and yours alone; seen by your eyes, sensed by your skin, touched by your lips, felt by your heart.

In the end, it is not about what they want for you Dear One, it’s about what you want for you – and you are the only one that can decide that.

Imagine if you can for a minute Dear One, things exactly as you want them to be.

Imagine having everything that you want, having everything that you need, having every single thing that you desire for yourself, and then some.

Are you doing it? Are you picturing it? Are you imagining what that would look like, feel like, and be like for you?

Is the thought making you smile?

Good. Keep it up.

When you are unsure Dear One, about the decision you are about to make, take a minute and ask yourself this question:

• Will this choice, will this action, will engaging in this relationship, will moving forward in this direction, will investing my energy here, serve my greatest good?

And then don’t think about the answer, listen for it instead, and then you will know.