Giving up is nothing to feel bad about Dear One.  Did you know that it’s OK to want to give up from time to time?  That it can actually be good for you?  Giving up is the ultimate form of surrender.

When you have nothing left to lose – when you stop trying – when you stop resisting what is –  when you reach your point of surrender – anything can happen, if you let it.

Surrender does not need to be hopeless, devastating or an indicator of weakness.  It can be intentional, exciting and an indicator of strength. Don’t give up and expect the worst.  Give up and expect the best.  Give up control, fear, remorse, guilt, agitation.  Give up negativity.  Give yourself a break.  Try embracing surrender today and allow something unexpected to happen.

Today, what we want you to know, Dear One, is that there is absolutely no reason whatsoever for you to fear judgment, of any kind.

You can and should feel absolutely free to say, think, do, act, and behave in any way that you would like, in any way that feels good, right, and appropriate to you.

We want you to know that you are not here to follow rules. You are here to explore them, to discover them, and to figure out all that you are capable of doing within them.

The rules, the laws, the guiding principles of creation, of the universe, don’t exist to limit you Dear One, to control you, to manipulate you, or to keep you in-line with some master plan.

They exist to do the exact opposite. They exist to maximize your potential, your movement, your ability to create, your ability to experience all that is possible in this physical reality, and your ability to expand upon it.

(And you never have to worry about breaking them, because you can’t.)

If someone, some book, some theory or concept dictates to you a set of universal rules, of universal laws that do anything other that that, you can be certain, you can know for sure that they most definitely did not originate from the source of creation, from the source of all that is.

Forgive them for their mistakes, Dear One, their shortcomings, their faults, their ignorance, and their impatience.

Forgive their actions when they react out of fear, their words when they respond from pain, their behaviors when they get defensive, and their callousness when they are cruel.

They are not perfect. They are deeply flawed. They are hurting, healing, learning, and coping the best way that they know how. Believe it or not, they are actually doing the very best that they believe that they are capable of.

They are imperfect Dear One – just like you.

Forgive them without expectation, without condition, without question and without hesitation.

Why?

Because doing so is one of the most powerful healing gifts that you can give to yourself.

It’s easy to be grateful for all that you’ve got, Dear One.

It’s wise to be grateful for that which is missing, for that which you want but don’t yet have

Why?

Because gratitude is so much more than you think it is. It is so much more than just a feeling, an attitude, or a mindset of appreciation.

It is also a powerful act of creation.

When you are grateful, when you are feeling gratitude, you are actively engaging in the process of creating more of whatever it is you are grateful for, of inviting more of it into your life.

That’s why.

Once you choose to engage in a relationship with someone, Dear One, once you choose to invest your energy, in any capacity, it is invested, and it will stay invested until you choose to consciously take it back again.

Simply walking away, ignoring, dissing or dismissing someone is not going to be enough to sever your connection with them.

If you are wondering why it is that so often feel as if you are being pulled in this direction and that direction, tugged this way and that way, when all you are trying to do is focus on the task that is in front of you, this is why.

Your energy will continue to interact with theirs Dear One, whether or not you are actively engaging in the relationship, until you consciously choose to disengage, until you consciously choose to take it back, until you consciously choose to move on, and not a moment before.

Whenever you get the desire to quit, Dear One, to throw in the towel, and give up before the end, ask yourself why it is that you want to do so, before you take any action.

• Is it because quitting will release you from a commitment that no longer serves you? Because it will bring you greater pleasure, joy, freedom, and opportunity to pursue something else that you believe will serve you?

• Is it because quitting will release you from having to do the hard work required to complete a difficult task?  Because it will prevent you from confronting your fears, from facing uncomfortable feelings, from the discomfort of growth and moving beyond that which is familiar to you, that which feels safe, into a place that could lead you to who knows where?

Quit or don’t quit Dear One. That is your choice.  It is not our place to tell you what to do.

But whatever you decide, we just want to make sure that you are aware of your reasons for doing it before you do.

If you really want to be useful Dear One, if you really want to be a good friend, don’t reach out and help them to carry their burden when they are in need.

Help them to put it down instead.

Do you want to know how to get unstuck, Dear One?

Move.

Make a choice.

Take an action.

Move.

Physically, emotionally, spiritually.

Doesn’t matter where you start.  Pick your point of least, not greatest resistance and start there.

Move one and you will be creating room, opening up space for movement to occur across them all.

• You are not here to find “The One” Dear One — You are here to know true love.

• You are not here to win awards — You are here to create, bravely, confidently, authentically, and from the heart.

• You are not here to accumulate wealth — You are here to have an experience of abundance.

• You are not here to achieve notoriety — You are here to learn just how powerful, creative, and capable you really are.

Are you starting to get the idea?

Direct your energy consciously Dear One, and it will go where you send it.

You will always pretty much know in what direction it is headed, and it is unlikely that you will ever be completely surprised when it gets there.

(Excited? Yes! Pleased? Absolutely! Overjoyed? Of course! But totally surprised? Probably not.)

But stop paying attention, and hand the reigns over to your unconscious self and let it do the driving, and you can pretty much guarantee that you will always be surprised by where your energy ends up.

If that destination is a good surprise for you, fantastic! That means that your unconscious self is serving you well.

However if the destination is not a good surprise, if you are finding yourself on the receiving end of something that you did not request, that is not desired in any way, shape or form, well then you’ve got some work to do.

But you’ve also got a very useful piece of information in your hands Dear One; a confirmation that you are not paying as close attention as you could be to how you are directing and flowing your energy.

And unlike an unwelcome surprise that has already found its way to your doorstep, that is something that you absolutely can do something about.