[This one is a very recent repost, but a much needed reminder to myself]

When you are hurting, Dear One, when you are in pain, please remember this; you have come to this place to heal this place.

You did not end up here because you did something wrong. You did not end up here because you are being punished. You did not end up here because you are being tested, tortured, or asked to prove yourself.

You ended up here Dear One, for one reason and one reason only, because you are being given an opportunity to heal.

Your thoughts set the tone for your day, Dear One.

• Scary thoughts can cause almost any experience to seem frightening.
• Happy, silly thoughts cause you to see humor in almost any situation.
• Thoughts of scarcity can cause you to see lack under any circumstance.

You get the gist.

Your thoughts (fueled by your beliefs), not only determine the tone of your day, Dear One, they determine your reaction to, experience with, and interpretation of, every, single, thing that happens to you over the course of your entire life.

THAT is why we keep saying to you, change your thoughts and you can change your experience of every, single, thing that follows.

Life is not setting the tone, Dear One.  You are.

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We are not going to try and stop you from making self-destructive choices Dear One, repeating self-destructive patterns, or engaging in self-destructive relationships.

This is your life and you are free to choose to live it any way that you please.

But what we are going to do is try and help you to become more aware of the fact that you are doing so.

We want you to think about and be conscious of every single choice that you make.  We want you to choose purposefully, deliberately, and with intention.

If you are making choices that are harming you, we would like for you to be fully aware of the fact that you are doing so.

This is your life Dear One, and you are free to make any choice that pleases you.

If, however, the choices that you are making are not pleasing to you, then we are going to do all that we can to encourage you to start making different ones.

Start by choosing to believe with absolute certainty (or at least with as much certainty as you can muster), that everything is going to be okay.

And then, act accordingly.

Because the truth is Dear One, that it will be.

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Which would you prefer?

• To live in an abundant universe filled with unlimited resources, or one filled with shortages and lack?

• To have an unlimited number of choices available to you in every situation, or only one?

• To live in a reality that is fluid, forgiving, changeable, and influenced by all those who live in it, or one that is linear, solid and unforgiving, that you are powerless to change?

Choose your answers wisely Dear One, because once you do, you are going to have to live with them, you are going to have to live in the reality that they create as a result.

How do you know if you are in the flow, Dear One, if you are on the right path for you, if you are going after the right things for you, in the right way for you?

Here is one simple way to know for sure.

• If you are enjoying your pursuit of it, you are on the right track.
• If you are pursuing it in hopes of finding enjoyment at the end, chances are, you are not.

That is how you know.

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You are not lost, damaged or irreparably broken, Dear One.  You have not traveled so far off course that you need to be concerned that you will not be able to find your way back.

We want to assure you that there is nothing fundamentally wrong with you – you are not out of order – you do not need to be “fixed”.

(But we can understand why it is that you might be feeling that way)

When you stop prioritizing those things in your life that bring you the greatest amount of joy, healing, comfort, support, relief, satisfaction or pleasure – it should be of no surprise that you are left not feeling your best.

You don’t need to worry about it Dear One.  You simply need to decide to start choosing differently.

Once you do, we think you will be pleasantly surprised to discover just how quickly things can snap right back into place.

The pain serves a purpose, Dear One. Like it or not, it does have a function.

And when its job has done, when its message has been delivered, it will depart.
Looking away, avoiding it, or neglecting it will only serve to prolong it.

THAT is why we tell you to run towards your pain Dear One, and not away from it.

• It is not so you can have an experience of feeling brave, of being brave.
• It is not because in your heart, in your core, you are a warrior.
• It is not so you can know that you are capable of facing and conquering whatever thing may stand in your way, or anything of the like.

The ONLY reason we encourage you to face your pain, (and your fears) Dear One, and to run towards it instead of away, is so that you can put an end to it, as quickly as you possibly can.

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Do you know what is guiding you Dear One?  Do you know what the desire is that is motivating you to make the choices that you make?

Is it trust, love, a desire to create, connect, to be happy, to be strong, to know joy?

Or is it a desire for security, safety, acceptance, belonging, recognition, attention, or relief?

It is important that you know because before you can change, before you can create more of what it is that you want for yourself, you need to first be aware of what that is.  And know this; figuring out your desires, what it is that you want to create more of in your life is very different than figuring out what is it you want to avoid.

• A desire to avoid heartbreak is not the same as wanting more love in your life.
• A desire for less illness is not the same as wanting better health
• A desire to avoid poverty is not the same as wanting greater wealth
• A desire to feel less lonely is not the same as wanting more companionship
• A desire for less stress is not the same as wanting more time, energy, contentment, or peace of mind
• A desire for less fatigue is not the same as wanting more endurance so you can do, be, have, or accomplish all that you want.

The steps, actions, feelings, and mindset required for you to create one are dramatically different than what is required for you to create the other.

All of the attention in the world focused on a contrasting goal is not ever going to bring you any closer to attaining it, no matter how hard you try, how badly you want it, or how much you think you deserve it.

So, now you know, now you aware.

Focusing your attention, your efforts on understanding why, Dear One, can sometimes help move the process along.  But will always slow it down.

Focusing on allowing; on connecting with tools, people, beliefs, mindsets that will allow you to allow, will always move the process along.

When you need the car to run, Dear One, to get you where you need to go, stopping first to understand how the engine works will only serve to delay your trip. And might even prevent you from taking it all together.

Today, Dear One, just for today, let go of the need to understand why things work the way that they do,  and try instead to just let the car go.

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