Are you having a hard time finding love, Dear One?  Do you feel as if you have been looking for it everywhere and that it is constantly eluding you?

If that is the case, we may be able to help. We may be able to shed some light onto the subject of why your search has not yet yielded you the results that you were hoping for, that you were expecting .

Love is not something that you search for.  Love is not something that you find.  It is something that you allow.

If you want more love in your life Dear One, try changing your mindset, try changing your approach.

Try opening yourself to allow love into your life instead of trying to chase it downs and see if that does not change the ease with which it flows into your experience.

When you think you’ve lost it all, Dear One, when you believe that there is no where else to go, and you’ve got absolutely nothing left, remember this:

You’ve always got another choice to make.

Your life is meant to be a joy, Dear One, and if the things that you are doing, from day-to-day-to-day, are no longer bringing you joy, then it is time to let them go.  Simply put them down and step away, and make room to allow for something new.

You are the one who determines your point of attraction.

What you put out there is what you get back.

So, you tell us, Dear One, based on what you are putting out there, what do you think is headed your way?

And more importantly, do you think you will be happy when it gets here?

We need you to do something very important for us today, Dear One.

Be genuine. Be authentic. Be brave. Be honest.  Be open.  Be curious. Be conscious. Be silly. Be scared. Be uncertain. Be doubtful. Be flawed.

Be human.

Be you.

When your behaviors are no longer serving you, Dear One, when they stop yielding the desired results, when your actions are no longer in alignment with your thoughts, feelings,
and desires – don’t start doubting yourself, your choices, your abilities, or your judgment. Don’t get angry, frustrated, or hopeless.  Don’t start looking for something or someone to blame.

Instead, try remembering that life is constantly changing, and so are you.

If the beliefs, routines, rituals, patterns and behaviors that brought you comfort, security, health, relief and joy yesterday, do not do so today – it may simply be time to change them.

The only way to know for sure, Dear One, what love really is, is to experience it for yourself. It is not something that you can learn, that you can come to truly understand from a book, a song, a movie, a poem, or a class.

And the best way to do that, to have a truly authentic experience of love, is to love yourself, purely, totally, completely, and unconditionally. That means  thinking, speaking, and acting lovingly towards yourself, all the time.

Do that, know that experience, give yourself the experience of knowing what unconditional love looks, feels, sounds, smells, and tastes like, and you will never again have to ask yourself or anyone else the question ‘Is this love?’, because you will know.

You will then know from firsthand experience what true love feels like, so you will be able to recognize if what you are feeling for them is love, and Dear One, you will know how to recognize if they are truly loving you in return.