Not now, not then, not ever, Dear One, will you ever be in a position where your options, your choices, your possibilities, are controlled, dictated or determined by anyone other than yourself, at least not without your permission.
Please try to remember that the next time you look around and find yourself feeling as though your options are limited.
Them or Me?
To begin with, this is not actually the right question to be asking, Dear One.
Those are not actually the two options that you are choosing between when you are struggling to figure out which is more important in the moment; taking care of their needs, or taking care of your own.
In actuality, it is not a choice between Them or Me that you are trying to make.
It is a choice between Me or Not Me.
And if you want to know which choice to make, if you want to know which choice will always serve the greatest good, which choice will always serve your greatest good, (which are both always one and the same) we will tell you.
It will always be to choose ME.
Because choosing Not Me can never serve the whole in any positive way.
PS
Making this choice has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with being selfish.
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Your opinion of you may change from day to day, Dear One, based on how you feel, how you look, what you think, what you’ve done (or didn’t do), how you loved, what words you used, what you ate, how well you performed, etc.
Some day’s you will feel more worthy of love, and some days you will feel less.
But you should know, Dear One, that no matter what, our opinion of you will never change.
Through our eyes, you will always be divine. Through our eyes, you will always be sacred. Through our eyes you will always be worthy.
So, the next time you are in doubt, the next time you are trying to figure out whether or not you are worthy, of love, of respect, of compassion, of forgiveness, and you are in need of a second opinion, please remember take a minute, and ask for ours.
Like the sunrise brings brilliant, magnificent, awe-inspiring beauty into the lives of all who wake up to see it, so to does this day hold many great, wonderful, and beautiful surprises for you, Dear One, if you are willing are wake up and see them.
Want to know a trick, Dear One, that will make taking that first (or next) step a whole lot easier?
Instead of imagining all that you could lose, all that could go wrong, and how far you have to go, imagine all that you could gain, and all that could go right, and all the fun that you could have along the way.
Doing so will not make that first step feel any less steep, but it could make it feel a whole lot less scary and a whole lot more inviting to take.
Your heart does not have an off switch, Dear One. It is always on.
It is always talking to you. It is always guiding you. It is always showing you the way.
When you can’t hear it, and all you can hear is the voice in your head, the voice of fear, insecurity, doubt, judgment, concern, guilt, lack, or despair, it is does not mean that your heart has shut down, is unavailable, or that it does not have wisdom to share with you.
It simply means that in that moment you are choosing to focus your attention elsewhere.
The voice that you give your attention to Dear One, is the one that you will hear the loudest.
If you want to turn the volume back up on your heart, so that you can hear it loud and clear, so that it is the dominate voice within you, simply choose to give your undivided attention to it.
Do this and it won’t take long before all of the other rumblings within you become nothing more than a faint and distant murmur in the background.
When you create peacefully, Dear One, you are creating peace, you are attracting peacefulness to you, you are in the process of manifesting peaceful people, events, and circumstances into your life.
When you create from a place of stress, from a place of agitation, desperation, pessimism or fear, you are engaging in the process of manifesting into your life people, events, and circumstances that will bring you more of the same.
Create consciously Dear One, create with love, with excitement, with confidence and hope, and guess what it is that you are going to get more of as a result?
Creation is not just about creating, Dear One; it is not just about the actions that you take to get something done.
There is so much more to it than that.
How you feel while you are doing it matters, so pay attention.
Hiding, shutting down, running away, giving up, playing it safe, or acting out, is not going to protect you, Dear One, is not going to lessen the pain, frustration, confusion, discomfort, or lack of abundance in your life, is not going to make it better, or help you in any positive way.
But opening your heart, your mind, your eyes, and your mouth will.
Instead of closing yourself off, open up wide Dear One, wider than you ever have before and let in the light, make room for something new, create a space for something different, for a new possibility, for a new outcome, a better outcome.
Listen to what we are telling you, Dear One.
It is the safest, quickest, most effective, efficient, and pleasurable way out of any undesired state or situation there is.
Sometimes the very best way that you can pay it back, Dear One, that you can show your gratitude and appreciation, is to say thank you, mean it, and continue forward, joyously on your journey.
You have a very powerful and potent healing tool available to you at all times, Dear One.
One that you can use anytime, anywhere, and under any circumstance.
Do you want to know what that tool is?
It’s words.
Do you want to know how you can use them to heal?
Speak nothing but loving, kind, caring, and compassionate ones when talking about yourself and everyone else around you today, and watch as their magic unfolds.