If you feel as if you have lost your balance, Dear One, if you feel as if you are having trouble getting both of your feet planted firmly on the ground, the single most important thing that you can do for yourself in this moment,  is to find it again.

How can you do that?

By asking yourself the following before every step that you take, and answering it honestly:

Will this choice, will this action, will this conversation, will this program, will this meal, will this purchase, will this person, will this decision, bring me closer to achieving a state of balance in my life or carry me farther away from it?

That’s how.

To reclaim control of your life, Dear One, simply reclaim it, one decision at a time.

Sometimes the answer really can be that simple.

Take note — we’ve said simple, not easy.

Do you believe yourself to be a victim of the circumstances of your life, Dear One, or the creator of them? 

Take a minute to think about it before you answer, because your reply will pretty much determine the course of the rest of your day, your week, your month, your year, your life.

You can spend your whole life following the rules invented by others for themselves, Dear One, or you can do what you are meant to be doing – which is writing your own rules.

Which feels like a better fit for you today?

Their rules or yours?

Contrary to what you might think, and how it might feel to you at times, Dear One, you should know that it is you, your heart, your thoughts, your beliefs, your choices, and your actions, that are commanding the powers of universe.

It is most definitely not the other way around.

Like it or not, Dear One, change is coming.  And that means that you’ve got a decision to make.

You have to decide if you are going to choose to embrace it or reject it – If you are going to choose to consciously participate in the process, or not.

But you should know that change will come either way, regardless of what you decide.  Life will continue to flow, evolve, move and shift around you no matter what you choose.

And there is absolutely nothing you can do to stop it from happening.

The truth of it is that you are participating either way.  Every thought, feeling, belief and emotion that you have is creating your point of attraction, is setting your vibrational tone.  And everything that comes your way, including change,  does so because it is a vibrational match to you.

You can create change consciously, Dear One, or you can create change unconsciously, but either way, it’s coming.

How it comes however, is totally and completely up to you.

The root of your insecurity is not your height, Dear One. And it is not your weight, hair, job or clothes either. It is not how you were raised, how much money you have, where you grew up, where you live now, or how much you think you are loved. It is not your siblings, your spouse or ex-best friend, and it is most definitely not your mother.

The root of your insecurity, Dear One, is your head.

You head will tell you stories. It will tell you that something is wrong when it is not, that something is missing when it is well within your reach, or that something is about to disappear that is rightfully yours forever. It will tell you that if you are not careful, if you do pay attention and play by the rules that you could lose all that you have, never get all that you want, and end up with everything that you fear and despise.

Do you want to know how to put an end to it, and rid yourself of all of your insecure thoughts once and for all?

The next time you are looking for the truth, Dear One, about your value, your worth, your beauty, your ability, your potential, or your importance in this world, turn to your heart instead of your head for the answer.

And then trust what it tells you.

The stronger choice, the wiser choice, the more powerful choice, Dear One, will always be the one that moves you closer to that which is wanted instead of away from that which is unwanted.

Does that help?

Regardless of who’s on it and how long the list gets, Dear One, know this:  There is no one more important than yourself for you to please.

Make yourself happy and you will be doing more than you can possibly imagine towards making those around you happy too.

This day does not require you to be brilliant, funny, witty, charming, or thin, Dear One.

It does not require you be as good as, or better than anyone else.

It does not even require that you be as good as or better than you were yesterday.

The only thing that it requires, Dear One, is that you be you, and do the best that you can do, today.