We watch you struggle day after day in your effort to hold-on, Dear One – hold-on to your job, hold-on to your relationships, hold-on to your health, hold-on to your security, hold-on to your control, hold-on to that which you know, understand and trust.
And we ask ourselves why.
Why do you try so hard to hold-on. Dear One when you can let go and float, fly, sail along your path instead?
If you are angry, Dear One, know this, they are not to blame.
Regardless of anything that they might have said, or done to piss you off or hurt you, they are still not to blame.
No one can make you feel something that does not already exist within you.
They can inspire you to get in touch with your anger, they can serve as an instigator, their actions can draw your anger up to the surface, but nothing that they do can inject anger into your heart.
Isn’t that great news?
Now you know, Dear One, that when you are angry and you are ready to deal with it, that you don’t have go back and deal with them in order to do it.
You only have to deal with yourself.
Do you want to feel better right now, Dear One?
Choose a better feeling thought, right now.
If it should inspire in you a better feeling action, take it.
*Repeat
Before you take even one more step forward, Dear One, forgive yourself; for whatever it is that you did yesterday that you regret, that you wish you had not done, that you wish you had done better, that you wish you could take back, change, erase or undo.
Forgive yourself – no questions asked, without judgment, without condition, without threat of punishment or fear of condemnation.
Just forgive yourself.
Give yourself this gift today.
You deserve it.
And those around you deserve it too.
All of your thoughts, words, actions, and connections will be all the more powerful, genuine, authentic and meaningful, Dear One, when you are fully present in the here and now, when you are no longer holding yourself hostage in your past.
There are two ways that you can choose to respond to any situation, Dear One:
One defines you as powerless and the other as powerful.
Which are you going to choose to be today?
If you want to start feeling better about the decisions that you are making in your life, Dear One, we have a suggestion for you:
Only make decisions that you feel good about, and stop asking other people what they think about them.
Learning how to be brave, Dear One, is not about learning how to ignore your fears. It is not about learning how to summon up the courage to push, force, or convince yourself to do something that you are afraid to do, that you don’t think you are capable of doing.
Learning how to be brave is about learning how to listen to and trust that part of yourself that knows exactly what it is that you are capable of, that knows exactly how much you can endure, that knows exactly just how powerful, clever, resilient, valuable, and strong you are, and prioritizing that voice above every other one that is telling you otherwise.
[NOTE: A recent repeat but this is the reminder that I needed most today. Breathe with me, won’t you?]
Your choices are the breathe of your life, Dear One.
They sustain you. They nourish you. They replenish or deplete.
They determine the pace, quality and depth of the days, months and years of your life.
Like your breath, Dear One, your choices are more powerful when given the benefit of your full attention.
Don’t give up now, Dear One.
You’re so close.
Right this minute, right where you are, you are only one thought away from feeling so much better.
If you want to know what freedom feels like, Dear One, if you want to know what it feels like to be free, to fly — you’ve got to be willing to jump.
There is no other way.