Love is not meant to be tough, Dear One.

Today, just love.

Let that be enough.

Sometimes the most useful thing you can do, Dear One, to be of service to them, is to take really good care of yourself, to honor yourself, to nurture yourself, to prioritize yourself, to enjoy yourself, to shine, and show them how it’s done.

Don’t compartmentalize your life, Dear One. Don’t compartmentalize who you are, or where you think you belong, based on your strengths and weaknesses today.

ALL of you belongs everywhere.

There is no shame in slowing down to accommodate the parts of you that that need more help, that need more nurturing, that need more guidance, that need more attention.  That is where your attention belongs. That is where your attention should be.

You, Dear One, are a whole person.  There is absolutely no benefit to you to choose to sacrifice one part of yourself to support another, to sacrifice a weaker part of yourself to support a stronger part. To press on with your strengths and leave your weaknesses in the dust.

The truth is that it is the reverse of that that will ultimately be to your greatest benefit.
You want to allow the strongest parts of you to protect the weakest. Not the other way around.

Why?  Because those parts of you that are weak now, that are in most need of healing, hold for you the greatest potential for wisdom, for learning, for growth. Hold the greatest potential for adding value to the whole.

You don’t want to banish them in their infancy, Dear One.  You want to nurture them to their full capacity. And then watch, as the tables turn.

Those lessons, those values acquired through learning, through healing, once strengthened, will one day lead the charge by bring up the rear, by healing other parts of you that may fall behind.

In short, take the time to mend the weakest links, Dear One, don’t cut them loose, because in time, doing so, will serve to greatly strengthen and lengthen your chain.

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In that moment when you realize that you’ve made a mistake, Dear One, taken a misstep, made a miscalculation, or a misjudgment, it is not the right time to be hard on yourself.

While it may feel like the most appropriate response, we can assure that it will not serve you one bit in correcting what you’ve done and starting the process of turning things around.

Bad things happen, Dear One.

Tough, frightening, painful, undesirable things are going to happen.

THAT it happened is what is significant to us today. Much more so than WHY it happened.

We understand that when unwanted things happen you want to know why so you can do all that you can to avoid it from happening again.

But the truth is, Dear One, that you can’t.

You can’t stop/prevent/avoid all unwanted things from reaching you. No matter how diligent you are, no matter how consciously you live. Imbalance will always find you. It will always be able to reach you. It is a consequence of being alive.

Prevention and avoidance are not where your efforts and attention will be best spent. But rather resilience, realignment, and recovery are the skills you want to master for relief and longevity.

That is what the wise do.

And the wise have become wise, Dear One, not by knowing/having all of the answers, and by avoiding all unwanted things, but by remaining open to insight and learning how to ask the right questions at the right time.

So, when bad things happen, instead of asking ‘Why me?’, the wise would ask;  What is my quickest path to recovery? What do I need to do to get back into alignment as quickly as I can from where i am now?

The only thing you need to change about yourself, Dear One, to begin to turn things around, is your mind.

You don’t strengthen your heart the same way that you strengthen your biceps, Dear One.

You don’t work it harder to make it stronger.

Reps of repetitive, challenging, difficult, painful emotions are not going to create the desired effect.

The heart thrives on love, Dear One, on gentle, compassionate, peaceful, trusting, joyful, loving energy.

If you want to get stronger, if you want to strengthen your heart,  don’t put your energy into seeking out new ways that will allow you to endure your difficult situations, people, emotions and circumstances for longer periods of time.

Seek out new ways that will help you to let go of them as quickly as you possibly can instead.

Our wish for you today, Dear One, is that you will allow yourself to break with tradition, to take a break from your norms, from what is comfortable and familiar to you, from your habitual thoughts, patterns, behaviors, and beliefs and venture into the unknown — going where your heart, and opportunity leads you — without fear, without hesitation, without question.  And that you be brave, confident, trusting, and gentle on yourself as you do.

You can always choose to turn back if you would like, and return to familiar patterns, familiar behaviors, and familiar beliefs. You can always choose to revert back to what is known, anytime you would like – if you want to.

So, you’ve really got nothing to lose.

It really is okay to not take it all so seriously, Dear One, – whatever it is – even the really, big, seriously important, significant, or scary stuff.

We say this to you not to disregard, disrespect, trivialize, dismiss or belittle whatever very difficult, important or challenging situation, circumstance or event you might be dealing with at the moment.

We say this to you to help you to remember that you can choose to approach it, deal with it, and transform it with, grace, confidence, and maybe even a little bit of levity, just as easily as you can with intensity, struggle, stress, fear, and doubt.

In one form or another, Dear One, this question seems to come up for you a lot.

• What is the meaning of this?
• What was the meaning of that?
• What does it all mean?

And no matter how many different ways you ask the question, the answer is always going to be the same.

The meaning is always going to be whatever you decide that it is.

What it means to you, Dear One, can only be determined by you, and nobody else.

So may we suggest that the next time the question arises, that you ask yourself this instead:

• What meaning am I going to choose to give to this?

Doing so will ensure that you always have a definite answer to your question and, it will spare you from experiencing a great deal of unnecessary uncertainty waiting for an answer.