• Their breath is not your breath
• Their eyes are not your eyes
• Their skin is not your skin
• Their lips are not your lips
• Their heart is not your heart

Listen to what they have to have to say, Dear One, ask for their advice, guidance, support and perspective, consider their point of view — if you think it will help.

But in the end, the experience of it will be yours and yours alone; seen by your eyes, sensed by your skin, touched by your lips, felt by your heart.

In the end, it is not about what they want for you Dear One, it’s about what you want for you – and you are the only one that can decide that.

ON A PERSONAL NOTE:
Sometimes what we need to hear is not what we want to hear. I hate it when that happens. Don’t you? 

If you are angry, Dear One, know this, they are not to blame.

Regardless of anything that they might have said, or done to piss you off or hurt you, they are still not to blame.

No one can make you feel something that does not already exist within you.

They can inspire you to get in touch with your anger, they can serve as an instigator, their actions can draw your anger up to the surface, but nothing that they do can inject anger into your heart.

Isn’t that great news?

Now you know, Dear One, that when you are angry and you are ready to deal with it, that you don’t have go back and deal with them in order to do it.

You only have to deal with yourself.

Clinging to fear when you are in uncertain or unfamiliar circumstances, Dear One, will serve you in much the same way that turning off the faucet will when you are most in need of a drink.

Fear cuts you off, from your source, from well-being, from the support, guidance, energy and wisdom that you need, just when you need it the most.

Trust in a universe that exists to support you, opens you up and connects you to your source, connects you to the unlimited support, guidance, energy and wisdom that is available to you at all times.

Fear cuts you off, and holds you in darkness. Trust opens you up and lets in the light.

The more you allow yourself to trust in the face of fear Dear One, the more you will be opening up the faucet. The more open your faucet is, the less you will have to be fearful of.

That which is for your greatest good today is to proceed gently, remembering to always act mindfully.

Nothing is guaranteed in this life, Dear One.

We wish we could tell you that you are now “out of the woods”, or when exactly you will be “out of the woods”, but we cannot. And that is because the truth is that you are never actually ever going to be “out of the woods”.

But think, act, behave consciously, awake, aware, bringing connection, light, and intention to all that you do, and you will never find yourself lost in a dark woods again.

Remember, Dear One, you are carrying the light that you seek.

You are the light!

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The single most important thing that you can do for yourself in this moment to restore balance, Dear One, is to allow balance to be restored.

How do you do that?

One conscious decision at a time.

Before you take any action, always ask yourself this:

•  Will this choice, will this behavior, will this meal, will this drink, will this purchase, will this person, will this conversation, will this decision, bring me closer to achieving a state of balance in my life or carry me farther away from it?

If you want to restore balance, Dear One, if that is truly your goal, do this and it will not be long until you are once again experiencing it.

Allow  yourself to be at peace in the present moment, Dear One –

And you will be at peace for all of the rest of the days of your life.

It is OK to move quickly through the paces of your life, Dear One – but know that it is not necessary.  No great benefit will come to you from rushing.  You will experience no faster advancement along your path.

The only thing that rushing will accomplish is for you to feel hurried in your experiences.  If you like the feeling/the experience of begin hurried, then by all means, you can continue on at this pace.  But, if you would like a more savory experience of your life, slow down.  You will not miss out on anything by doing so.  We promise you that.  But you do run the risk of missing out on much, when you rush.

When you are learning to do something new, Dear One, either by choice or by necessity, you always have options available to you for how you are going to proceed:

• You can choose to resist and proceed with frustration, resentment, impatience, and regret for the task at hand
• You can choose to allow, and proceed with excitement, curiosity, hope, and an open mind as you approach the challenge before you

You can choose to focus on the work, effort and energy that will be required of you, or you can choose to focus on the many new doors that will open for you a result.

Just a little reminder today to pay attention to which direction are you leaning as you are making your way around the bends.

If you are feeling tight, restricted, tense, frustrated, boxed in, or cut off, Dear One, it is very likely that it is because you are living a life that is entirely too small for you.

The remedy to this malady is a simple one:

• Remember that there is no limit to what is possible for you, no box you must fit in to, no plan you must adhere to, no path you must follow.
• Take a deep breath.  Expand your lungs. Unclench your fists hands.  Widen your eyes. Open your mind.  Open you heart.  And trust, believe what we are telling you is true.
• And then dream bigger, and allow your world to expand.

Once you choose to engage in a relationship with someone, Dear One, once you choose to invest your energy, in any capacity, it is invested, and it will stay invested until you choose to consciously take it back again.

Simply walking away, ignoring, dissing or dismissing someone is not going to be enough to sever your connection with them.

If you are wondering why it is that so often feel as if you are being pulled in this direction and that direction, tugged this way and that way, when all you are trying to do is focus on the task that is in front of you, this is why.

Your energy will continue to interact with theirs, Dear One, whether or not you are actively engaging in the relationship, until you consciously choose to disengage, until you consciously choose to take it back, until you consciously choose to move on once and for all, and not a moment before.