The truth is, Dear One, that you are who you are; blessed, divine, beautiful, precious, and loved, and there is absolutely nothing that you or anyone else could ever do that is ever going to change that.
Insecurity, Dear One, is fueled by a fear of rejection, a fear of being left unloved.
That pit you feel in your stomach is dependency.
It is an empty space inside you that is waiting for nourishment to be sent your way.
Reach out to another for the nourishment you need, and you may or may not get what you need in return.
Reach out to your source instead, and you need never fear that hunger again.
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You are not lost, damaged or irreparably broken, Dear One. You have not traveled so far off course that you need to be concerned that you will not be able to find your way back.
We want to assure you that there is nothing fundamentally wrong with you – you are not out of order – you do not need to be “fixed”. (Although we can understand why it is that you might be feeling that way)
When you stop prioritizing those things in your life that bring you the greatest amount of joy, healing, comfort, support, relief, satisfaction or pleasure – it should be of no surprise that you are left not feeling your best.
But you don’t need to worry about it. You simply need to decide to start choosing differently!
And once you do, we think you will be pleasantly surprised to discover just how quickly things can snap right back into place.
Take one step forward at a time Dear One, joyfully, intentionally, mindfully, feel good about where you are going, and you will be traveling faster towards your desired destination then if you ran full steam ahead towards it motivated by frustration, sadness, anger, fear or insecurity.
Mindful choices guided by good feelings are infinitely more powerful than those guided by loss, lack, obligation, fear or desperation.
It is not the amount of space between where you are and where you want to be that determines the length of your journey Dear One.
The length of your journey is determined by the distance that you must travel from where you are, to feeling good about where you want to be.
And how long that takes, is entirely up to you.
There are an infinite number of different ways for you learn, Dear One.
Which to choose depends entirely on what kind of learning experience you are hoping to have.
And that is something that no one but you can decide for yourself.
So if you were hoping that we were going to help you out this time, that we were going to give you the answer, we are sorry to say that we can not, we will not tell you what to do.
But we will give you one small hint, Dear One.
And here it is.
If you can, jump.
Instead on trying to fix it, Dear One, allow yourself to return to peace, prioritize allowing, creating, and embracing peace within yourself above all else.
Do what we are telling you, and watch, as things begin to fix themselves.
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If you want to live a different life, Dear One, if you want to live the life of your dreams, you can. But you should know that it will come at a cost. Sacrifices are going to have to be made.
You are going to have to sacrifice the old vision that you have had of yourself, the old story that you have been telling about yourself, the old limitations that you have been holding onto, the old patterns that you have been maintaining, the old heartaches that you have been nursing, the old hurts that you have been hanging on to.
Will it be difficult?
It could be.
Will it be worth it?
Absolutely.
There is nothing wrong with you, Dear One. You are not broken. You don’t need to be fixed.
You are simply not making the choices that bring you the greatest amount of joy, laughter, health, comfort, balance, peace, contentment, or connection.
You know what they are.
You know how you feel when you choose them.
You know what to do.
That wall that you’ve just run into, Dear One, that one that you keep banging your head up against, you should know, that it’s not actually a wall.
It’s a door.
And the reason that the door is there, Dear One, is not to keep you out.
It’s there for you to open.
And it’s not locked.
You are feeling a strong desire for change, Dear One; how you look, how you feel, what you do, how you live, what you have, who you love, who loves you, and so on.
And you are uncomfortable with it. You are unsure of how exactly you want to change, and what exactly you want to change into, and how you are going to make all of this change happen. And you want to make the discomfort stop.
But to relieve the stress, the unease that accompanies not knowing, the frustration that comes with not having, the self-loathing that comes with feeling unworthy or undeserving or unprepared, the answer is not to stop wanting, to stop trying, to stop moving forward in an effort to avoid confronting the distress.
The answer is in fact, to do the exact opposite of that. The answer is to embrace the change, and embrace the lack of clarity, discomfort, uncertainty, and insecurity that comes with it.
Because stopping, turning back, giving up, or running away is never going to get you to where you want to go. But moving forward just might.
And the truth is that both directions, forwards and back, hold the potential for discomfort, equally. It is unavoidable, nearly impossible to escape the feeling all together.
So the question that you really want to be asking, when it comes to dealing with the discomfort of change, Dear One, is not, How can you avoid it or make it stop, but…. Do you want to confront, deal with, and work through the discomfort while you are moving forwards, backwards, or standing still?